Grappling with insecurities

The more we grapple with insecurities, the more we will lose the ability to believe in our abilities, the more insecure we will be and the more we will ignore how we feel.

But feeling insecure means we will take the love and care that we can, disregard both and then look for more. Looking to others to make us feel secure, or looking for a solution from others without us helping …

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31 Jul, 2018

The art of surrender

I tend to deal with the things I have control over. The things I have little to no control over, I let go of those things; but I’ve not always done it that way.

As a child I held on to everything, primarily because I lived with guilt and that guilt had no where to go. But the control we have is rooted in fear. We worry that without control we will struggle to function …

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30 Jul, 2018

Learning to introspect

We know that introversion or introspection is the act of observing and thinking about ourselves and our lives objectively. Introspection is a conversation with us.

Both are used as a tool to help us look at our lives from the outside in. With introspection you look at how you talk, what you say and how you behave, how you feel and what makes you feel the way …

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28 Jul, 2018

Co-existing with anxiety

My thoughts about anxiety are never far away. Being a parent myself, I find it hard to equate that my anxiety as a child was completely overlooked. Although I didn’t know the bad thoughts I had as a child were from anxiety, it is hard to imagine now years on that my life could have been made easier.

As the anxiety I deal with is down to my disability, I must continue to find ways to manage it. I still struggle with the concept of having had worked blindly, the deceit and other people’s judgments …

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24 Jul, 2018

Forgiveness & discretion

When someone ignores something, and they do it consciously with full knowledge and deliberation, that’s when we have a choice about whether we choose to forgive.

Because we have a choice to change our decisions and make a different choice, our decisions then become a whole new story and forgiveness is no longer justified. The deed can no longer be an open and …

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23 Jul, 2018

A gift from Cerebral Palsy

I remember helping a friend work through some issues when the conversation moved to my blog. I used to think everyone could write, but through our conversation, it became clear that my ability to write, came as a gift with my disability.

Without cerebral palsy I wouldn’t have a gift, but through autism my senses are heightened. Whilst I failed at most things as a child and was embarrassed to talk about or even own up to those, those failings …

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22 Jul, 2018

Order my new book

Ilana x