What we take from childhood

As a child I learned very early on that we don’t have choices. That as the adult we get to choose, but we must choose wisely.

We don’t get to choose how our parents bring us up, but we do get to choose how we use their choices to better ourselves. That we can’t choose the behaviour of others, but that we are instrumental in choosing …

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31 Oct, 2018

An Henri Nouwen quote

Something inspirational:

“Did I offer peace today? Did I bring a smile to someone’s face? Did I say words of healing? Did I let go of my anger and resentment? Did I forgive? Did I love? These are the real questions. I must trust that the little bit of love that I sow now will bear many fruits, here in this world and the life to come.”


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29 Oct, 2018

A path to enlightenment

The path that leads to enlightenment is the path we take to better ourselves, better our lives, become better people, and become more spiritually aware.

But in order to attain spiritual awareness, we have to be in touch with truth and continually work on that. Enlightenment isn’t something that just happens, it’s something we must continue to work …

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28 Oct, 2018

Understanding & forgiveness

In our early years we can’t know or equate what our parents emotionally deal with or why we get the life we get.

We are only able to filter views through our own prism, we’re not mature enough that comes with age. But our early experiences can and do affect us deeply. If parents find it difficult to show or give love, that will …

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27 Oct, 2018

Letting people down

It’s not in our nature to want to let anyone down, but our circumstances have to fit for us to achieve our goal without putting ourselves at emotional or physical risk.

We must understand our limitations and ask ourselves whether what we’re trying to achieve is something we may achieve. It’s not that given time we won’t achieve our goal if that’s what we’re working towards …

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24 Oct, 2018

Persistent qualities

Thoughts about my disability are never far away and is the reason for another daily blog. I’m not sure how old I was when it became clear to me that even without my disability, I would have had little opportunity around an education and travel. I would have had to have had a different culture and parenting to achieve it.

Looking back, it was only on the back of my persistence that I eventually found out what had been wrong with me for all of those years. The sad reality is that I lived through all of my experiences not knowing …

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23 Oct, 2018

Facets of my disability

The truth is I have never been properly assessed, but if I were to have been properly assessed and a percentage added as part of that assessment, I would estimate that I am 70% mentally and 30% physically disabled.

Although I have never highlighted or thought about autism and Asperger’s as part of my disability I deal with both. I make what I deal with look easy, the key difference being I have learned to adapt and conceal …

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22 Oct, 2018

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