Dealing with being different

Growing up with a disability I didn’t know I had, meant I was different. Dealing with being different, wasn’t easy. With skirts on, you could physically see I was different, how I mentally and emotionally presented also made me different.

But through my blog, years on being different has brought about a source of connection and belonging and that’s changed having incorrect assessments made of me, based on my disability and lack …

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22 Aug, 2019

We need actions, not words

It’s not enough just to talk about things. We must act on the things we talk about. Actions must manifest our words. If we hurt someone it’s not enough for us to say sorry. We need to show people we’re genuinely sorry.

When it comes to an apology, how we apologise is how we will put things right. All apologies must clear the path for emotional …

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21 Aug, 2019

Silent treatment manipulation

When someone actively chooses to ignore you by resorting to silence as a means of expressing their contempt or disapproval at something you’ve said or done, you know you’re on a temporary collision course. It’s ironic because not talking about something that affects two people, simply adds to the drama and doesn’t sort the problem out.

But anyone who ignores and chooses not to talk to someone has a complete disregard for their relationship, for someone else’s feelings. When anyone uses the silent treatment, it’s telling the other person …

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18 Aug, 2019

Finding a place

“Verbal abuse (also verbal attack or verbal assault) is the act of forcefully criticising, insulting, or denouncing another person.  Characterized by underlying anger and hostility, it is a destructive form of communication intended to harm the self-concept of the other person and produce negative emotions.” – Wikipedia

Over the years I have lived with abuse, trauma and neglect. I have also lived a dysfunctional life. Whichever way you look at my story, I have been through the mill, but I am lucky that through my blog …

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17 Aug, 2019

Working blindly

It wasn’t just living in the dark, yes there was that, but it’s others thinking it was okay to leave me in the dark that I struggle with the most, that and having to work through a blinder for all these years, until I found out my diagnosis.

So many memories but my biggest memory was finding out I was pregnant for the first time and having no idea about my disability, or how things would work out around my pregnancy and disability …

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16 Aug, 2019

Mindful Eating

According to a 2011 report from the U.S. Department of Agriculture, the average American spends around two and a half hours a day eating, but more than half of that time, we’re doing something else, too, usually working, driving, reading, watching television, or playing on an electronic device, so we’re not fully aware of what we’re eating.

And this mindless eating – a lack of awareness of the food we’re consuming – may be contributing to the national obesity …

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13 Aug, 2019