We close our minds. We close our minds to the possibilities that we may have done okay, but instead convince ourselves we’ve failed.
We then continue to convince ourselves that we’ve failed, instead of waiting to see what the results are with an open mind. Then not only have we convinced ourselves we’ve failed, we also manage to convince others that we’ve failed.
Whatever happened to the let’s just wait and see scenario?
In the case of an exam, if we’re meant to pass we’ll pass, whether we think we’ve failed the exam or not and even when someone tries to tell us they think we’ve done okay, we’re still intent on telling ourselves we’ve failed.
I believe it’s important to work with an open mind, because nine times of out ten when we’ve talked ourselves into something, the opposite often happens. Unfortunately, when we think we’ve failed at something before we actually know we’ve failed, we’ve already set ourselves up for a fall, not to mention the amount of stress we put ourselves through, just to work through the process.
Of course, there will be times where we will have failed and that’s okay too, but we must always have an open mind about the possibilities. A closed mind will also affect how we see other outcomes in other areas of our lives.
Having seen this pattern play out so many times before, it’s a pattern that will continue to be used by us, until we learn to change it and that can have a negative effect on our emotional health.