A fractured skull

I’m still learning more things about myself and my experiences. I’ve mentioned the time I fell down the stairs at the age of 7 and although I knew I was in hospital for four days and that I wasn’t allowed to sleep, what I didn’t know was that it was because I had a fractured skull and the doctors were afraid that if I slept I’d slip into a coma.

I came across the letter about the fall when I was looking through my medical notes, trying to piece together 10 missing years of medical notes. Although a fractured skull isn’t something a parent would want to divulge to a child of such a young age, there was nothing stopping them from talking to me about my experiences when I was old enough to understand.

Whatever we go through as children, it’s important we know the facts and can place our experiences. For me it’s joining up the dots on the bigger picture of my experiences. Being able to understand our experiences gives us a clearer perspective on life.

I also believe it not only shapes our world and highlights our strength, but shapes us as individuals too. Even if a parent doesn’t think it’s important, it’s more important what the child thinks, after it’s the child’s life.

6 Feb, 2018

4 thoughts on “A fractured skull

  1. All I can add to your post is that every little piece of additional information you discover is another piece towards the whole you and that is a positive thing.

    1. Yes, I suppose so. I’m not feeling the positive though. It’s more of down trodden feeling. Having been done to.

      A catastrophe of sorts to add to all the other things I’ve had to deal with. As a parent myself, I’m struggling to understand and why?

  2. Well, that doesn’t surprise me that your parents didn’t discuss this with you on top of everything else.

    I’m sure that it would have been nice to know what was going on, considering that the head injury could have brought on seizures from the Cerebral Palsy.

    My daughter started having them shortly after she had tubes put in her ears, so it doesn’t seem like it would take much to trigger them.

    I’m surprised that I didn’t develop them after a girl tried to crush my skull when I was 4. I know that I did have a CAT scan, the guy who did it made it feel like he was breaking my neck with the way he was twisting my head around, but I don’t think there was a lot of follow up after that.

    Both of us didn’t receive the proper medical care we needed, on top of nobody explaining anything, which can eventually lead to problems later on that we have to figure out on our own.

    1. Thanks Randy. Yes, it was the blind leading the blind for both of us. Sadly, like me you I’ll never really know the full details.

      I just find it sad how I can recall so many details and stories that happened without the love and support that should accompany those stories.

      It is the love and support that helps us find the strength and closure in equal measures, neither of which I had, but I also feel for you too.

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