I believe we must have a level of acceptance of our experiences regardless of what we deal with, because without an acceptance of any kind, emotionally we will stay stuck.
When we learn to accept what we’ve had to deal with, we break the cycle. There will be things that we can change and being able to change those things will help us move into a better head space; but that’s not always an option we have open to us. But most things we deal with are brought about by our state of mind.
If we work on our state of mind, we can and will eventually come to reconcile. For some of us, we already know we should reconcile, but a part of us still wants what we know we can’t have. Since I was little girl, I always knew that I was living with some sort of physical and emotional disability, even though I didn’t know what it was, but it didn’t stop me wanting to be the same as my brother and sisters.
It also doesn’t matter whether you live with something from birth, or with something later on in your life that happens and changes the way you look and feel about yourself, there still has to be a level of acceptability that you can work with.
There is a school of thought that says if you’re born with something it should be easier to live with because you don’t know any different. To some extent that’s true, but the other side of the coin is that if you’re fully aware others are normal and what you deal with is mild, it doesn’t stop you wanting what they have.
For me there isn’t a right or wrong way of thinking. It’s down to us as individuals. No one has a monopoly on what I think, in the same way I don’t have a monopoly on what others think. I have days where I find a certain acceptance and days when I wake up with the burden of what I deal with.
On the bad days I still need to work through my emotions, and that again makes me begin to question my acceptance. Of course, acceptance needs to happen if we are going to have any chance of moving forward. I am constantly striving to do both.