I believe we must find a level of acceptance in our experiences, regardless of what we deal with, because without an acceptance of any kind, we will mentally stay stuck.
When we learn to accept what we have had to deal with, we break the cycle. There will be things that we can change and being able to change those things will help us move into a better head space, but that’s not always an option open to us. Most things we deal with are brought about by our state of mind.
If we work on our state of mind, we can eventually come to reconcile. For some of us, we already know that we should reconcile, but a part of us still wants what we know we can’t have. Since I was a little girl, I always knew that I was living with some sort of disability, even though I didn’t know what it was, but there were times when it didn’t stop me wanting to be the same as my siblings.
Struggling to accept our experiences, can be emotionally and physically draining. It doesn’t matter whether you live with something from birth, or something later happens that changes the way you look and feel about yourself, there still has to be a level of acceptability that you can work with.
There is a school of thought that says if you’re born with something it should be easier to live with, because you don’t know any different. To some extent that’s true, but the flip side is that if you’re fully aware others are normal, and what you deal with is mild, it doesn’t stop you wanting what they have.
For me there isn’t a right or wrong way. It’s down to us as individuals. No one has a monopoly on what we think, in the same way we don’t have a monopoly on what others think.
I have days where I find a certain acceptance and everything feels easier, then days when I wake up with the burden of what I deal with.