A level of acceptance

I believe we must find a level of acceptance in our experiences, regardless of what we deal with, because without an acceptance of any kind, we will mentally stay stuck.

When we learn to accept what we have had to deal with, we break the cycle. There will be things that we can change and being able to change those things will help us move into a better head space, but that’s not always an option open to us. Most things we deal with are brought about by our state of mind.

If we work on our state of mind, we can eventually come to reconcile. For some of us, we already know that we should reconcile, but a part of us still wants what we know we can’t have. Since I was a little girl, I always knew that I was living with some sort of disability, even though I didn’t know what it was, but there were times when it didn’t stop me wanting to be the same as my siblings.

Struggling to accept our experiences, can be emotionally and physically draining. It doesn’t matter whether you live with something from birth, or something later happens that changes the way you look and feel about yourself, there still has to be a level of acceptability that you can work with.

There is a school of thought that says if you’re born with something it should be easier to live with, because you don’t know any different. To some extent that’s true, but the flip side is that if you’re fully aware others are normal, and what you deal with is mild, it doesn’t stop you wanting what they have.

For me there isn’t a right or wrong way. It’s down to us as individuals. No one has a monopoly on what we think, in the same way we don’t have a monopoly on what others think.

I have days where I find a certain acceptance and everything feels easier, then days when I wake up with the burden of what I deal with.

20 Oct, 2011

10 thoughts on “A level of acceptance

  1. I think every person is different. They deal with their CP and people around them differently. It depends on ones self esteem, or lack of level of support from friends or family.

    All these factors will shape how a person reacts and live their lives. People should not judge another person until they walk a mile in their shoes.

    1. Randy you’re right, we are all different and we react differently through our experiences; but even if we have no support or little support from friends or family, we still have to find a level of acceptance so that we can cope, to help us live our lives.

      Without any level of acceptance on what we deal with, we will have no quality of life. I truly believe that. Thank you for posting.

  2. Let me ask you this about accepting CP.

    How do you accept having Cerebral Palsy when you never asked for it in the first place?

    I had no choice; I was not asked if I wanted this. However, I do acknowledge having CP, but I don’t know if I can accept it.

    1. Bill. You’re right, you didn’t ask for it, neither did I, but we both have it!

      All you and I can do is find a level of acceptance so that we can deal with our CP and live our lives successfully.

      Living with anger all the time isn’t the solution. It just distances family and friends and makes us bitter.

      Usually human intervention is to blame for us having CP. It will have been up to your parents to find out why you were born with it; the same way it would have been up to my parents.

      I am pleased, however, that you are managing to at least accept the fact that you have it.

      Perhaps in time you will come to find a level of acceptance on it. I hope so.

      Thank you for posting.

  3. I have accepted my diabetes, but I haven’t accepted that I should live my life differently than anyone else.

    People all the time say “you shouldn’t do this, or that, or eat this or that.” Well I am the one that has lived with it for almost 40 years and I know what I can do and can’t. It really just gets on my last nerve when people say these things.

    I haven’t accepted my FMS/CFS though and I may not. I hear most people with it can’t do things activity wise, but I’m a fighter and I go and go until I can’t for a while then go again.

    I refuse to sit around and let it take over my body while I’m still young and really able to do things. Just because we have a diagnosis doesn’t mean we should accept the inevitable, which is to be bed ridden.

    I’m stronger than my diagnosis.

    1. I understand you completely Lisa, but finding a level of acceptance helps us adjust to our life around what we deal with. Ignoring symptoms pertaining to what we deal with can make our lives a lot worse and us emotionally a lot worse.

      Even if we cannot accept what we deal with fully, finding our own level should help us live our lives that little bit more successfully.

  4. I think acceptance differs greatly depending on the person.

    Certain things people say that you have to just accept as a part of life isn’t necessarily true. When I was younger I was told to accept a lot of things that I never did and in part that has gotten me to where I am today.

    It depends on the variables in the situation and how determined of a person you are. While you can’t change having CP there are many ways in dealing with it that can change certain aspects of it.

    1. Thanks for posting LeAnna. I think you’re right, acceptance will of course differ greatly depending on the person. Some people will be more accepting than others with what they deal with; others may not be accepting at all.

      It sounds like you became more determined as a child to accomplish all that you have because of your own circumstances, which was beneficial for you.

      I think that how we perceive things helps with acceptance. We just have to find a level that works for us.

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