My early thoughts are often in the forefront of my mind but I think that’s okay. It enables me to revisit conversations to see whether my feelings have changed. As children we don’t know we’re loved until we’re told we are.
Some parents may be better at expressing their love where as other parents may be more practical. Being practical shows a parent’s love differently. Other parents may struggle not only to tell their children they are loved, but to show their children that they are loved.
I remember asking my mum whether she loved me. She looked at me, slightly bemused that I would even think to ask, but it’s not uncommon for children to ask, primarily because they feel secure knowing they’re loved and that encourages confidence and self-esteem. Sadly, not all children are lucky enough to be told.
A lot of what we repeat like being loved is what we’ve had in our childhoods if everything repeated is positive, but not if everything is negative. Telling children, we love them is something we should do voluntarily and even if it’s not, it’s important we tell our children they’re loved.
I believe children can’t know they’re loved if we don’t tell them they are, but as parents it’s something we should all do.