A measure of love

My early thoughts are often in the forefront of my mind but I think that’s okay. It enables me to revisit conversations to see whether my feelings have changed. As children we don’t know we’re loved until we’re told we are.

Some parents may be better at expressing their love where as other parents may be more practical. Being practical shows a parent’s love differently. Other parents may struggle not only to tell their children they are loved, but to show their children that they are loved.

I remember asking my mum whether she loved me. She looked at me, slightly bemused that I would even think to ask, but it’s not uncommon for children to ask, primarily because they feel secure knowing they’re loved and that encourages confidence and self-esteem. Sadly, not all children are lucky enough to be told.

A lot of what we repeat like being loved is what we’ve had in our childhoods if everything repeated is positive, but not if everything is negative. Telling children, we love them is something we should do voluntarily and even if it’s not, it’s important we tell our children they’re loved.

I believe children can’t know they’re loved if we don’t tell them they are, but as parents it’s something we should all do.

25 Mar, 2018

2 thoughts on “A measure of love

  1. My roots are like rocks when it comes to being told that I was loved, I didn’t dig for it either.

    Nevertheless, I accept that no one is perfect that my parents were once children with problems unknown to me. So I pretended like it wasn’t a big deal, but it really was.

    1. Thanks Tim. I think your last paragraph will ring true for so many of us, me included.

      Yes, as children we’re the last to know of our parents problems, why they present a certain way. We see that they do. But when we have no understanding as to why that’s enormously difficult.

      But you’re right pretending does not mean that it doesn’t exist. Children would come to accept less in the form of ‘material gain’ for love particularly in the early years.

      Love promotes confidence and self-esteem, it’s something we as human thrive on.How we feel starts in childhood. It’s very difficult to work around mature adult relationships without having had love as a child.

      When we’re not told we’re loved messes it messes with our head.

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