I am sure none of us consciously bring up our children to believe that it has to be our way and if it’s not our way, it’s the wrong way.
When we watch our children struggle because of what they have to deal with, it’s hard to see why they just don’t get what we get, even with the explanations that will help them pave their way. It’s so clear to us and yet their own explanations are clear to them.
I think that outside influences have as much of an impact, even more so on our children and their lives from the day they’re born, so we’re already in competition.
So how are parents supposed to compete?
In a nutshell we can’t. Looking back, I know I could never change anything of where my children are now. There will always be strong personalities involved, with their own take on how they choose to contribute. It almost became a daily battle, constantly having to move some of the boundaries back.
Perhaps it’s because of those influences that children don’t always take on our values, but of those others whose influence was the strongest. I’ve heard it said that as soon as children start school, they’ve already changed.
I’m sure I’m not alone in my feelings. I am sure we will all continue to find ways to improve on what we have. Children are for life and so are our relationships with them as their parents. It’s all about give ‘n’ take.