A reflection, 2017

It’s at this time of the year that I get to put my thoughts together. How I see the year up to this point and reflect.

There is so much to think about when it comes to Christmas, the build-up to this time of year is incredibly stressful. I liken it to going on holiday because that’s how it feels. We’re exited to go, look forward to spending time with family, but a couple of days into the holiday and we’re still trying to wind down from a busy year and feeling stressed in the process.

The sad reality is that many of us will experience these feelings, but either won’t recognise or admit it’s true and will continue to make how we feel about others. The pressure is also on for us to at least think about changes coming up to the New Year. Where we unconsciously tell ourselves things will be different coming into the New Year, but the reality of course is that unless we change the way we see others, nothing will change.

That what we’re not happy with, comes from us. We can’t pass the buck thinking that when others change, our lives will fall into place. Experiences change us if we emotionally allow for that change, but individually we must want to change. Sadly, not everyone will grow or change, but they’ll still expect others to conform.

I can’t wrap my blog up without turning my attentions to those less fortunate. We must spare a thought for those who have little to no family to spend their Christmas with, or those homeless this Christmas. We must also think about those who don’t get to spend or see Christmas through our eyes, particularly for those who get to deal with a disability.

I still continue to see how in 2017 there is still little acceptance of disability and those who are mentally challenged, but that’s for others to find an acceptance on us. Sadly, others will forget and continue to judge on how they see us, rather than how we may present. On our part we’re just looking to fit in.

We need others to accept how we are, period. If I had a magic wand, I’d make people understand that which they should already know. However disabled we are, don’t make our disability about us as if we’re at fault. Instead choose to understand how we present and help us.

In the meantime, I shall continue to try to make things better through my blog. You’ll all be in my thoughts this Christmas.

22 Dec, 2017

6 thoughts on “A reflection, 2017

  1. My only remaining sister passed this year. She was born the day after Christmas, which makes this holiday season particularly difficult for me. It’s as if life is trying to see how far it can push me; but who understands human nature?

    Having said that, the merry part of this Christmas is my experience with the CP Diary. The way it comforts and takes pleasure in healing, and the beautiful people here as well.

    Happy Holidays everyone!

    1. Awe thanks Tim. Happy Holidays. Yes, it’s never easy losing a loved one, particularly so close to Christmas. My thoughts are with you.

      If you believe that your life is mapped out before you’re born, you’ll already know when it’s your time. Although it’s hard for those left behind, things happen for a reason. Unbeknown to us, your sister will already have known it was her time.

      But Christmas is always a hard time of year, because that’s when families get together. We tend to remember our loved ones around Christmas. I hope that you will be able to continue to remember the happy times you had with your sister.

  2. Tim, this must be a very hard time of the year for you. You are in my thoughts.

    I look forward to Christmas, as its the only time of year I get to take time off work and spend it with my family. That’s all that matters to me.

    Also, it’s as if my body knows I have a few days off and it kind of switches off and shuts down ready for the resumption of business as usual in the New Year.

    The peace and quiet is over all too soon.

    1. Thanks, yes the body can go blah this time of year then when we’re all together it’s like a rocket going off! Christmas can go either way for some families.

      It is a wonderful time of year for us to relax and come together, but it can also be stressful too.

      We must remember to be kind to each other.

  3. Well 2017 has been one hell of a shitty year as far as being in a relationship, but it also turns out that I may definitely have a dependent personality disorder, which is one of the hardest things for me to deal with.

    Considering who I could have chosen to be with, choosing to be with this woman was most illogical and has been a nightmare for almost 12 years.

    Chances are that we won’t make it to 12 so 2018 may end up being a much better year, or at least I’m hoping so. I have reconnected with my BFF from when I was a teenager and she finally realized how much I loved her which she wants to talk about.

    It gives me something to look forward to since I would rather forget this year and move on to having a better life, for once.

    1. Thanks Randy. Yes, what you choose to do in 2018 will definitely be up to you. If you want to be with your BFF that will be up to you also.

      There are certain things in our life that we definitely have control over. Luckily, this is one such area. You’ll be pleased to know that When it comes to relationships, the universe tends to leave that down to us.

      I hope 2018 turns out to be a better year for you.

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