I believe it’s true that we go through life more or less knowing what to expect and with any small changes that come along, we’re usually equipped to cope. Because any small changes are not so different from the norm, they continue to have an overall sense of familiarity about them, so we cope.
But how do we cope with changes we’re not expecting? It could be anything from a significant event, to new information that changes or invalidates our assumptions. Anything that isn’t familiar, may automatically throw us into chaos, into an unfamiliar territory we’re not ready for.
And perhaps that’s the problem. Everything around us may then become unfamiliar and unpredictable. Our thoughts may begin to change, our usual behaviour patterns thrown into chaos and we suddenly begin to struggle with motivational issues, which didn’t seem a problem before.
Any new changes may leave us with unfamiliar thoughts and feelings, anxiety, stress and confusion. It doesn’t matter if how you usually respond is not how you feel you should respond.
Whilst we begin to work through change, there are no right or wrong answers. It’s what works for us and so that we begin to cope and feel better about change.