I used to spend my time as a child thinking about whether other people would like me, but although these were my thoughts, I know now there are plenty of people who generally don’t pay attention to us.
They’re probably too concerned about what people think of them, but it doesn’t stop us worrying nevertheless. For those who do notice and judge us, they’re probably not the people we would want to be friends with anyway.
I believe the problem stems from how we feel about ourselves, how we see people and the world, not necessarily from others judging us. They’ve probably not said anything to us or behaved inappropriately, but seeing them can just make us feel bad about ourselves.
Having Cerebral Palsy in some ways made me think that perhaps I wasn’t good enough, but it was never a conscious thought. Subconsciously I must have been honing in on self-negativity, whilst perceiving people in the same way. I had no confidence, no support and had low self-esteem.
I believe that when we accept ourselves, we begin to perceive other people more positively. When we’re more accepting of ourselves, any negative thoughts about how others perceive us, don’t exist.
Being accepting of ourselves, is more important than others being accepting of us. We should all be accepting of each other.