I used to spend time as a child thinking about whether others would like me, but now I know there are probably plenty of people who generally don’t pay attention to us.
They’re probably too concerned about what other people will think of them, but it doesn’t stop us worrying on some level whether they will like us. Those who notice, and judge are probably not the people we would want to be friends with anyway.
But perhaps the problem stems from how we feel about ourselves, and not necessarily from others judging us. They’ve probably not said anything or behaved inappropriately; but seeing them somehow reinforces how we feel about ourselves.
There were times when having cerebral palsy did make me think that I wasn’t good enough. Subconsciously I must have been homing in on negativity, whilst perceiving people in the same way. I had no emotional support, little confidence and low self-esteem.
But when we accept ourselves, we will begin to perceive others more positively. Also, when we’re more accepting of ourselves, any negative thoughts about how others perceive us won’t exist.