I believe resilience helps us with our life’s journey. It doesn’t matter whether we need it to help us cope with the death of a loved one, a serious illness, or traumatic event, it’s resilience that helps us pave the way forward to a more calm and peaceful existence, particularly if we’re dealing with trauma.
Unfortunately, it’s an on-going process that requires effort and time on our part. If we are to learn to develop our own personal strategies, we must learn to enhance our resilience to situations and circumstances that are sometimes beyond our control.
What is resilience?
It’s a term used for people who bounce back seemingly well from very stressful and traumatic experiences. Everyone can have resilience, but we won’t all use it, partly because we’re not always aware of how to use it.
It involves our thoughts, behaviour and actions that help us work towards finding solutions to those traumatic and difficult experiences. Individually some of us find it harder to have resilience. Our upbringing has a lot to do with it. A good example of resilience is the September 2001 terrorist attacks. When we need to draw on resilience it’s there, we find a way through.
It is easier to be resilient when we have a supportive network around us, either through family or friends, so long as they make good role models and offer reassurance and encouragement.
The following factors for resilience may also help:
- Having a positive attitude and the confidence to believe in yourself, in your own abilities and strengths;
- Being able to manage impulses and feelings as and when they arise;
- Having the ability to communicate and problem solve well enough not to carry or see your issues as problems;
- The capacity to be able to make realistic plans with a view to carrying them out in an orderly fashion that won’t add to complicate or heighten stress in your life.
Developing resilience is a personal journey for each of us. People won’t and do not react to the same stressful events in the same way, therefore what works for one person, may never work for another.
We all perceive things differently and therefore just have to make what we do, work for us.
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