As a child, I didn’t notice because I was too angry, but criticism is nothing more than another person’s observation of us. If there is an issue there we must deal with it, but first we should recognise it.
The problem with criticism, is that how others see us, is not normally how we see ourselves. Instead, we may think of it as a personal slur, but it’s a slur on our behaviour. It is our behaviour they’re struggling with.
In some cases, the people who see us in that could be right, but because we’re in denial we may not see what they see. We may hate giving others the satisfaction of them knowing us, but if it’s family or friends they are usually well versed, in the same way we are well versed with them.
People may often tell us things that are in our best interests because they care, but we may not always see it that way. But if we listen, another person’s viewpoint can give us the opportunity to learn something about ourselves. When we’re too quick to defend ourselves, we fail to learn.
It may only usually be when we have calmed down and we use that time to reflect, that we may see they’re right. Trying to see another person’s point of view or agreeing, will always defuse what could turn into a heated argument.
‘Accepting criticism’ gives both parties the opportunity to remain calm and stay friends, particularly as what’s said is often given in good faith. We should learn to see it that way.