Accepting responsibility

How many of us use blame to excuse the way we behave? Blame is like anger. It allows a person to behave inappropriately and can be damaging.

We develop a thought pattern that sends our emotions into override, we lose self-control, we emotionally hurt others. There are many reasons why we do it, but primarily it’s because of how we feel. It’s important we learn the importance of taking responsibility for ourselves, without apportioning blame or lashing out.

Our struggles aren’t always someone else’s fault and whilst it’s not something we always think about, subconsciously we’re using blame as a means to control our life. That way we don’t have to take and accept responsibility.

We use blame as a means of defence when we can’t admit to our mistakes. We also use blame as a means of failing to accept certain situations that have happened in the past, particularly around denial.

When we recognise, deal with and begin to accept certain situations, we almost welcome accepting responsibility.


1 Sep, 2011

6 thoughts on “Accepting responsibility

  1. I agree. Blame is nothing more than a bad habit If you do it constantly. I don’t tend to blame others, unless I know the whole story.

  2. Blame can be a very toxic thing especially when it is used to avoid accepting responsibility for our own actions. My situation is all due to decisions I made, so now I have to face the consequences and move on.

    I can’t always blame my parents or other people for how my life is right now. I’m hoping and praying that I’ll be able to get beyond all of this at some point.

    1. I agree with you.

      I think a lot of how we turn out in our adult life has something to do with our parents having parented us, although when we’re old enough to make our own decisions, we then become responsible for not changing the things we’re not happy with.

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