How many of us use blame to excuse the way we behave? Blame is like anger. It allows a person to behave inappropriately and can be damaging.
We develop a thought pattern that sends our emotions into override, we lose self-control, we emotionally hurt others. There are many reasons why we do it, but primarily it’s because of how we feel. It’s important we learn the importance of taking responsibility for ourselves, without apportioning blame or lashing out.
Our struggles aren’t always someone else’s fault and whilst it’s not something we always think about, subconsciously we’re using blame as a means to control our life. That way we don’t have to take and accept responsibility.
We use blame as a means of defence when we can’t admit to our mistakes. We also use blame as a means of failing to accept certain situations that have happened in the past, particularly around denial.
When we recognise, deal with and begin to accept certain situations, we almost welcome accepting responsibility.