It would be difficult for anyone to find inner peace when they can’t accept their imperfections. Unfortunately, the desire for perfection and a need for inner peace will always be in conflict.
I have seen people close to me feel the need to change something because they want it better than the way they have it now. It simply doesn’t end well. We need to be grateful and content on the things we have, rather than wanting to change or fix everything, and make the things we have better and bigger.
I also believe that the act of focusing on our imperfections takes us away from inner peace. Despite the best of intentions, we can’t do or give of our best when we’re attached to and focused on the wrong things.
How many of us validate ourselves by always wanting perfection? We look for perfection, convincing ourselves other areas of our lives will be right when we have it, when in reality, we should be seeking to do the opposite. The idea of a world in which everyone and everything is perfect is nonsensical.
Being born with cerebral palsy made me less than perfect. It was other people’s inability to accept that I wasn’t perfect as a child that showed me a different way to be. There will always be easier ways to work things out, that may give us a better outcome, but that’s not the same as having to have perfection in those things.
I believe that we need to bring about awareness of what we’re doing, so that when we fall into the habit of wanting to change things so they’re perfect, we tell ourselves that they are fine as they are. We need to remind ourselves that our life is okay as it is. We’re okay. It’s okay not to be perfect.
As we begin to eliminate the need to be perfect or have perfection in our lives, we will begin to discover that okay is good enough. Simply put, we need to make peace with ourselves and with our imperfections.