It’s accepted that when we’re little, our parents make the decisions for us, that as we grow they will encourage us to make our own decisions so that we can begin to make our own decisions, follow our own path.
If like me that didn’t happen for you, you shouldn’t feel accountable or responsible, because they’re not taking responsibility for the decisions they made for you. For years, I felt I had failed. Because of the control, the interest wasn’t there, the decisions weren’t mine.
Until we’re ready to let go, the anxiety based around those decisions will always continue to haunt us. But if you’re not responsible for others’ decisions, it’s time to let go of the guilt.