How we react and continue to interpret and react to certain situations can bring about anger and anger that turn into issues. We may all have our personal triggers for what makes us angry.
My anger issues, which lasted a good part of my early life, were triggered because I didn’t know about my disability. I was struggling in my day to day life, with a physical, mental and emotional disability, I knew nothing about.
It is a natural human emotion to hold on to anger when our needs aren’t being met. My anger sadly became normalised. I was irritated, powerless, and frustrated because my needs to connect with my physical issues (a disability) didn’t happen.
Anger itself isn’t bad, because it is telling those around you, they need to help address why you have anger. Many things can trigger anger, including stress, financial worries and family problems.
For anyone dealing with someone who has anger, these pointers may help:
- Listen and then validate what the other person has to say so they feel validated. Part of the reason people are angry is because they lack validation;
- Instead of raising your voice, respond by lowering your voice and speak slowly, so there is no reason for confrontation;
- When the other person feels you’re hearing what they have to say, it means you understand what the other person has said, matters to them.
Anger happens for a reason, therefore it’s important to stand back to understand why someone may have anger.