Do you go out of your way to please others, just so that others will appreciate and accept you? The truth is that both of those not only make us feel resentful, but make us feel unappreciated as well.
These thoughts stem from how we feel about ourselves. We start to please others so that we feel accepted, but even with acceptance we may not always feel we are accepted, because we don’t feel we’re worthy.
I believe that when we start to love and value ourselves, then others will start to love and value us too. When we are respectful of ourselves, others will show us respect.
We must pay attention to ourselves. We need to allow ourselves to feel the things we feel so that we begin to recognise and deal with our own feelings. We also need to pay attention to our subconscious, because the subconscious is responsible for all our thoughts, feelings and experiences.
When we begin to change those thoughts, we will begin to feel differently about others and about ourselves. If we’re holding on to resentment and anger, we must let go of those, both of which stem from not being appreciated.
Taking responsibility and acknowledging the need for change is a good place to start. Affirmations like “I accept myself” or “I appreciate myself” is another good place to start.