We will never be appreciated all of the time. It’s the nature of how life goes, but have you ever told yourself that no one appreciates you and really believe what you’re telling yourself is what you feel?
Do you go out of your way to please others, just so that people will appreciate you? I was always doing that as a child. That and feeling I needed to be accepted. Truth be known now, I believe that both of those will not only make us feel more resentful, but will make us feel unappreciated as well.
All of these thoughts, stem from how we feel about ourselves. We usually start to please others so that we get to feel accepted; but even with acceptance we may not always believe what we’re being told, because we don’t we feel we’re worthy ourselves.
Having worked through this myself, I believe that when we start to love and value ourselves then others will start to love and value us too. When we are respectful of ourselves, others will begin to show us respect.
So how do we go about changing what is?
Well the first thing we need to do is to pay attention to ourselves. We need to allow ourselves to feel the things we feel so that we begin to recognise and deal with our own feelings.
We also need to pay attention to our subconscious, because the subconscious is responsible for all our thoughts, feelings and experiences. When we begin to change those thoughts, we will begin to feel differently about ourselves and others. We have to let go any resentment or anger, which stems from not being appreciated.
Taking responsibility and acknowledging the need for change is a good place to start. Affirmations like “I accept myself” or “I appreciate myself” is another good place to start.