Are we really happy?

I was asked the question about what makes me happy and I couldn’t quite answer the question straight without going round the houses a few times.

Without putting a total damper on things, when we’ve lived with trauma, I don’t believe we own that particular feeling. True happiness comes from the soul. It’s what our sole has or hasn’t had. If the soul continues to be nurtured, we will feel happy.

I’d like to think I do the best with what I’ve been given. Happiness isn’t something you just accrue when you feel like it. Stress adds to how we feel; unless you correct what is fundamentally wrong, inwardly you will never know what being happy, truly means.

It’s not that someone can’t make you happy, but when our soul and lives have been conditioned, it’s that conditioning that stops us from being genuinely happy.

We must dig deep and peel back the layers. We must also take away any daily stress and surround ourselves with people that we know will make a difference, where we didn’t have that before.

If we don’t feel happy in our soul, we haven’t experienced true happiness. Unfortunately, everything we feel outwardly comes from the soul.

11 Mar, 2016

4 thoughts on “Are we really happy?

  1. I don’t think I remember actually ever being happy, so I don’t know what that feeling really is!

    I spent most of my life just trying to survive and feelings weren’t very important when they can be used against you. People think that stuff will make them happy, but if you aren’t happy with yourself, it doesn’t do any good.

    I have actually hated myself for most of my life for mistakes I made when nobody really showed me how to do things the right way. They mostly piled on tons of baggage from generations past that wasn’t mine to begin with and made my life a living hell.

    My biggest hope at this point is just to be able to be comfortable in my own skin!

    1. Thanks Randy. You’re right, mistakes made by our parents are passed down by our parents parents through the generations, until we get to change them!

      Unless we consciously choose to change our lives and I believe that needs to happen here, I’m not sure we can be happy in the true sense.

      I have yet to meet anyone who is truly happy all of the time, but it would be lovely to think we can settle for a little bit of happiness somewhere along the way.

  2. We were born crying instead of laughing, perhaps we felt something amiss from the very beginning. So we camouflage our unhappiness until our hair is gone and rely on things hoped for instead.

    But my happiness matters greatly to me and the next phase of my life is depending on it.

    1. Thanks Tim. You’ve given a good analogy of where trauma begins, but I’m not sure whether it’s the act of being born, which in itself can be traumatic, or whether it stems from our before life, before we enter this world. There would have to be more research done for us to understand it completely.

      It’s lovely to know that your happiness matters to you greatly. I believe more of us need to think like that. I think that if took all the earthly trappings out of the equation, we’d be happier. I also think we rely too heavily on our unconscious thoughts.

      If more of us chose to interact better, we would create better environments. Creating better environments means we would create a better atmosphere; creating a better atmosphere would create a better mood.

      It stands to reason that if our moods were better, we’d feel and be happier in ourselves.

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