We hide our emotions behind a mask. We put on a facade telling the the world that all is well, when in reality our thoughts and feelings tell a different story.
But putting on a facade, means we keep hidden who we really are under the superficial exterior and in doing so create a fictional self that becomes a safety barrier to our authentic self. To the outside world we keep up the pretence and the illusion that we can cope, that we’re managing, when in reality we feel very different.
The problem is that as we continue to live behind the façade we will begin to convince ourselves that we’re all the things we tell the world we are. We hide behind our feelings because it’s easier, because we don’t have to face dealing with them. We hide because someone or something has made us feel like that. A controlling parent; an insecure childhood, anything.
Looking back now I can see that my innate beliefs as a child unconsciously saved me from living behind a façade. Although I learned not to question my circumstances, or life growing up; I muddled through until such a time I could make my own choices and move on.
I have always believed that as long as we understand why we emulate a particular behaviour, there’s no reason why we can’t change that behaviour. We may not be able to change our circumstances completely, but managing small changes within our own remit, would be the way to go.
I’m not convinced that living behind a façade is the right place for any of us to stay. Just think how much of life we’d miss. We must take control of our life before our life takes control of us.