Regardless of my physical and emotional issues, I never allowed myself to be drawn into the ‘poor me syndrome.’ I’m not sure why, I just never did.
I seemed to withdraw to a place where I was calm and when I was out of that place I was always angry. I still didn’t equate my anger to feeling sorry for myself, although I can understand why people will.
When we take on the ‘poor me syndrome’ we’ve already subconsciously relinquished the role of taking responsibility for ourselves, whilst we continue to fail to meet our daily challenges. Perhaps somewhere in my psyche I was already aware of that.
Although it seems the easy way out, in effect we’re allowing those who have made us feel like that to continue to justify themselves. At the outset, we’re telling the world that we’re okay with what we’ve done, but the truth is we’re really not okay. As we continue to feel sorry for ourselves, we never can be.
It took me some time to push myself through my own challenges. I was realistic enough to know that I couldn’t change anything as a child and perhaps that’s why I didn’t succumb to the ‘poor me syndrome.’ As far as my own problems were concerned, I used that time to continue to perceive my world as I grew up.
We need to break the cycle. As adults we have choices but by the time we become adults, bad habits have already set in. We then continue to apportion blame to those people who we believe put us there. We are responsible for our own perceptions of how we see ourselves, as adults.
It’s up to us at that point, to either choose to continue to feel sorry for ourselves or choose to change the way we think. We need to want to change and to break the cycle.