Being accepted

I was a pleasing child, always looking for acceptance because I was insecure. I was insecure because I was navigating a childhood with a disability I didn’t know I had. However we need to be accepted, it’s something we crave for at different times. When things are good and we’re making headway, we seem to want and need less acceptance.

Being accepted can make us feel safe and protected, but it isn’t something we can always rely on. We must rely on ourselves and our own thinking for us to find and have acceptance. I believe how we are brought up is very much the catalyst for our acceptance. Where people recognise and understand their experiences they will be more accepting.

Although what happens in our past is the reason people struggle with acceptance, we must try to be more open-minded about our experiences. Referring to the past, when we come to understand why something happened the way it did, we will find a way to bring about acceptance. Although it’s often difficult to achieve acceptance so that we can move forward, we must strive to achieve it.

Acceptance is something we acquire if we fit the mould, rather than something given in abundance. But the opposite of acceptance is rejection and that can be bad for our mental health, if we’re not sure how to deal with it.

We must also look at being accepted in its wider context. To avoid feeling isolated, excluded and lonely, we must come to understand the universe and how our lives fit into that.

Because acceptance is not inclusive, we must learn to like and accept ourselves. Society needs to be inclusive, so that acceptance is par for the course and open to everyone.


4 Dec, 2018

2 thoughts on “Being accepted

  1. I don’t think being a pleasing child looking for acceptance or approval is unusual, but I can understand why in your case you did.

    It must have been difficult you living with a disability you didn’t know you had. We all look for acceptance at some point in our lives. Fear of rejection plays a part too.

    Understanding is the first step to acceptance and unfortunately as a race we are short of mutual respect and understanding these days.

    Perhaps if we accepted ourselves then we wouldn’t feel the need to look for acceptance from others, but when we do we at least deserve understanding.

  2. Thank you. Yes, I think your last paragraph sums up your response beautifully. If we accepted ourselves then we wouldn’t feel the need to look for acceptance from others.

    The irony is that the older we get and the more work we do on ourselves, the more confident we become, the less acceptance we need.

    We must all be respectful to others no matter what we deal with or what’s been in our past.

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