Being accepted

I was a pleasing child looking for acceptance, because I was insecure. I was insecure because I was navigating a childhood with a disability I didn’t know I had.

However, you get, want or need to be accepted, it’s something we crave for at different times in our lives. When things are good and we’re making headway, we seem to want and need less acceptance.

But being accepted isn’t something we can rely on. Although being accepted can make us feel safe and protected, we must rely on ourselves and our own thinking for us to find acceptance. People would be more accepting of each other if acceptance was part of everyone’s mindset.

It’s something we acquire if our face happens to fit, rather than something given in abundance for everyone. But the opposite of acceptance is rejection and that can be bad for our health if we’re not sure how to deal with it.

Up to the point of diagnosis in my forties and with a life based around control, my life had always been pretty much mapped out for me, but I do have two memories of college rejections after I’d left school, before secretarial college.

Looking back now those rejections were right, but being rejected shouldn’t make us any less worthy of ourselves, we must come to understand rejection in its wider context. I think we also need to look at being accepted in its wider context too.

But to avoid us feeling isolated, excluded and lonely from exclusion, we must come to understand the universe and our lives, because not only do they work together, they are timely in how things work out.

It is important that we like and accept ourselves. Acceptance is not inclusive and needs to be. Society, people and the world needs to be inclusive, so that acceptance is par for the course and open to everyone.

4 Dec, 2018

2 thoughts on “Being accepted

  1. I don’t think being a pleasing child looking for acceptance or approval is unusual, but I can understand why in your case you did.

    It must have been difficult you living with a disability you didn’t know you had. We all look for acceptance at some point in our lives. Fear of rejection plays a part too.

    Understanding is the first step to acceptance and unfortunately as a race we are short of mutual respect and understanding these days.

    Perhaps if we accepted ourselves then we wouldn’t feel the need to look for acceptance from others, but when we do we at least deserve understanding.

  2. Thank you. Yes, I think your last paragraph sums up your response beautifully. If we accepted ourselves then we wouldn’t feel the need to look for acceptance from others.

    The irony is that the older we get and the more work we do on ourselves, the more confident we become, the less acceptance we need.

    We must all be respectful to others no matter what we deal with or what’s been in our past.

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