I was a pleasing child looking for acceptance, because I was insecure. I was insecure because I was navigating a childhood with a disability I didn’t know I had.
However, you get, want or need to be accepted, it’s something we crave for at different times in our lives. When things are good and we’re making headway, we seem to want and need less acceptance.
But being accepted isn’t something we can rely on. Although being accepted can make us feel safe and protected, we must rely on ourselves and our own thinking for us to find acceptance. People would be more accepting of each other if acceptance was part of everyone’s mindset.
It’s something we acquire if our face happens to fit, rather than something given in abundance for everyone. But the opposite of acceptance is rejection and that can be bad for our health if we’re not sure how to deal with it.
Up to the point of diagnosis in my forties and with a life based around control, my life had always been pretty much mapped out for me, but I do have two memories of college rejections after I’d left school, before secretarial college.
Looking back now those rejections were right, but being rejected shouldn’t make us any less worthy of ourselves, we must come to understand rejection in its wider context. I think we also need to look at being accepted in its wider context too.
But to avoid us feeling isolated, excluded and lonely from exclusion, we must come to understand the universe and our lives, because not only do they work together, they are timely in how things work out.
It is important that we like and accept ourselves. Acceptance is not inclusive and needs to be. Society, people and the world needs to be inclusive, so that acceptance is par for the course and open to everyone.