Being unaccountable means that we will never take responsibility for ourselves, or our actions. It also means we’ll continue to apportion blame and find excuses, put things off and indulge in only doing the minimum.
Accountability is the total opposite: taking responsibility for all our actions regardless of the consequences. If something goes wrong, we’re accountable. But how many of us would rather plead ignorance, rather than take responsibility and be accountable for the decisions we make?
We find it easier to say, ‘I didn’t do it’, ‘it’s not my job’, or ‘I didn’t know,’ rather than accept accountability. Many of us, disappointingly, tend to be accountable only when we know we’re not going to get into trouble or be penalised for something we’ve done.
Children seem to be the worst culprits, but if parents don’t teach their children accountability, they will never be accountable as adults. The less accountable we are, the more we will take a back seat, we will never be to blame even if we are and we will always pass the buck to someone else.
Anyone can change and become accountable, but we have got to want to change. When we’re not accountable, any white lies we tell will always turn into black ones. I think being accountable is important and is the right choice to make. It’s also part of the healing process because a change in attitude always promotes emotional growth.