I am sure many of us will go out of our way to help family, or for them to help us when we need it the most.
For many of us though, the realities of what we deal with differ and as much as we try to work things through, sometimes we’re left to evaluate our own circumstances and change what is, to how we want and need things to be.
Stress in families is one of the reasons why families are far from conciliatory. We all have issues that we deal with, but we should also give thought to other family members and what they may be going through. That way we’re more likely to be more conciliatory and helpful towards one another. It works both ways.
We should all try to be conciliatory, regardless of what’s going on. Being conciliatory helps build and keep relationships healthy. Whether you’re the child, parent or grandparent, fitting your life in with other family members must involve compromise, give ‘n’ take and communication, all of which are important and make for better relationships.
Some will continually try too hard to make their relationships work, whilst others probably won’t try hard enough. Some of us may take family for granted, because they let us. We assume, wrongly that family stick together and always will, so we don’t try to work at anything.
Finally, where there’s a history and a power struggle between two people in the same family who have strong personalities and a history together, those problems unfortunately will seem unavoidable and inevitable.