Being honest

Only we know what we believe and if what we believe is the truth. Only we know if we’re lying to ourselves.

Other people may think they know what’s going on with us and what’s right for us, but only we know whether we’re doing what we say we’re doing. We must be honest with ourselves. Only we know what our values are and whether we stand by and live with those values.

We can all change, but only if we have the desire to change, but not all of us will. Having the desire to change comes with a discipline of its own and our need to want to change, to do things differently. Life is a discipline of its own, but all disciplines need honing That part isn’t so easy.

In the long term, being honest with ourselves means our lives will become less complicated. Issues that once seemed daunting will become less daunting. We’ll be more in control and therefore more gentle on ourselves. Being gentle on ourselves means we’ll be more dignified, not only with ourselves but with others too.

When we’re not true to ourselves, we live a lie and a life less than what we would expect and if that is the case, why be prepared to settle for anything less? We all get one crack at life, we may as well make our life the best that it can be.

When we’re honest with ourselves everything falls into place automatically. It absolutely does.


19 May, 2015

4 thoughts on “Being honest

  1. In previous years I felt like I wasn’t honest to myself, because I was what my friends and family wanted for me to be for fear of confrontation or rejection.

    Fortunately, I have learned to be who I actually am. I am the one who’s living my life, so I am not going to pretend I am someone else. If people don’t like who I am, oh well.

    1. Thanks Maria. Ditto on your thoughts. Your response totally resonates with me. I was also someone others wanted me to be until I realised I was very unhappy.

      When I changed the way I viewed myself so that my life was more about me, my family didn’t like it and probably still don’t. I think you’re right though, we have to be honest with ourselves first and be who we are so that we can live our lives our own way and not for other people.

  2. I think honesty is one of the most fundamental and basic qualities that we need, to form lasting relationships and that must start with being honest with ourselves, as you say.

    I do try to be honest in my business dealings, to the point of turning work away that I do not feel is in the client’s interest and that in itself has led to difficulties at times.

    I am happy that I will be able to look back and say that on the whole, I have acted honestly and professionally. Our personal lives are more complicated, as we don’t always get honesty back from people, but equally the responsibility is on us to be honest in any case.

    1. Yes we can’t vouch for other people only ourselves, but agree with you. I believe being honest with ourselves and others does pay and will do. It often doesn’t seem like that as you’ve pointed out, but in the longer term I always believe it does. Unfortunately as you’ve experienced, not everyone works from the same copy book.

      It’s a shame because we’d all be better off if we did. We’d have more harmony in our lives, with less difficulties based around relationships, both in our personal life and through work.

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