We all deal with problems differently, that’s a given, but taking control is a priority for all of us if we are to always have hope of achieving the best outcome.
Why control is important?
Without control our problems will control us. I believe there is always a solution to every issue or problem we have to deal with. We can either do it with control, or we hang on by the skin of our teeth. Life throws us many challenges, but learning how to meet those challenges will always help us cope. Those challenges will always shape and makes us stronger.
The key to any challenge is us being pro-active. To some of us that is a big challenge, to others it’s meeting the challenges they find difficult. Realistically, it’s not an option not to meet either the challenge or to back off. My own definition of being pro-active is standing back, assessing the problem objectively and working out a solution.
If a problem is there it’s usually for a reason, it needs to be resolved and it needs us to resolve it. We can resolve our problems two ways. We can calmly accept we have a problem that needs resolving, or we can stress ourselves to the point of losing control to the outcome, through the universal route, or someone else having to step in for us.
Unfortunately, when we lose control we lose our ability to concentrate and function, even at the most basic of levels. If we work on the assumption that problems will always be resolved, it doesn’t really matter how long they take, we will get through them. Whether it’s the outcome we want, we still have to find a level of acceptance.
Either way, it’s easier when we’re in control whether we have the outcome we want or not. Control makes it so.