I have always been misunderstood and misjudged. Throughout my life I’ve had others colour their assumptions of me because of a disability I didn’t know I had, through neurological difficulties and without any emotional support.
But from my own experience, being misunderstood isn’t just emotionally draining, it can be like living with total strangers, uncomfortable, awkward in parts and totally frustrating when you know it’s not deserved. As others continue to colour their assumptions of us, those relationships will become even more emotionally separate.
Continually being misunderstood can cause feelings of fear, isolation and anger. There will always be those that blame because it’s easier, they point fingers because they would rather do that than deal with their own feelings and take responsibility for how they feel. The reality of course, is that the more they apportion blame and ignore their feelings, the more their feelings will over spill on to others.
There’s also another reason. When it comes to family and couples’ relationships, people don’t emotionally or spiritually grow together. For those who don’t, they may begin to feel threatened; for those who put the hard work in, they we will become the scapegoat and will always be judged and misunderstood.
In relationships, when one half works towards the finishing line and the other half hasn’t even entered the race yet, the one working towards the finishing line will always continue to be misunderstood.