Being self-critical stems from our core beliefs, which unless corrected will continue. But how many of us are actually aware of each time we say something critical, or self-critical? Perhaps, therefore, we shouldn’t take offence if someone points out what we are doing.
In the beginning negativity wasn’t something I was consciously aware of, but the older I got the more I became aware of the family dynamics, and where the negativity was coming from. By then I’d seen enough to last me a lifetime and knew I didn’t want to be that way.
But I believe with understanding, patience and practice, there is no reason why we cannot change. It’s all about perception: how we see ourselves. We must embrace new perceptions. If someone tells us we’re being negative, we should accept that we probably are.
This can be the first step in recognising those traits in ourselves. What others say should always be taken as constructive and not personal.