Being self-critical stems from our core beliefs, which unless corrected will continue. But how many of us are actually aware that every time we say something we’re being critical, self-critical at that? We perhaps need to be aware that is what we are and not take offence if someone happens to mention that is what they think we are.
Negativity wasn’t something I was consciously are of, but the older I got the more conscious I was of the family dynamics. It was easier at that point to see where all the negativity was coming from. I’d also seen enough to last me a lifetime and knew I didn’t want to be or live my life that way.
But with understanding, patience and practice, there is no reason why if we are being self-critical we cannot change. It’s all about perceptions and how we see ourselves. If someone tells us we’re being negative, even critical, accept that we probably are.
The first step for us is to recognise those traits in us. What others say should always be taken as constructive and not personal.