Being self-critical stems from our core beliefs, which unless corrected will continue. But how many of us are actually aware that every time we say something, we are self-critiquing? We need to be aware and not take offence when someone tells us that we’re being self-critical and negative about ourselves.
When we grow up surrounded by negativity, it’s not something we will always consciously be aware of, but as we grow and we begin to take more notice of our environment, we will become more aware of the family dynamics and negativity.
Being positive can sometimes be difficult if you’re living around negativity, but we must make a conscious decision that where we are subjected to negativity, we aren’t going to participate in being critical about ourselves.
By understanding family dynamics and our lives better, and with practice, there is no reason why we can’t shift from being self-critical to self-assured. It’s all about our perceptions, how we see ourselves and how we perceive our lives. But if someone tells you that you are being self-critical, you should perhaps listen.
The first step is to recognise our behaviour patterns. What others say about us should be taken as constructive, not personal.