Being self-critical stems from our core beliefs, which unless corrected will continue. But how many of us are aware that every time we say something we are self-critiquing?
We need to be aware this is what we’re doing and not take offence, when someone tells us we’re being self-critical and negative about ourselves. If you choose to look at something positively you will see only positive. In effect, we create our thoughts so why not create positive thoughts.
I grew up with negativity around me. It wasn’t something I was consciously aware of at the time, but as time went by I became aware of which family members were positive and negative. Given what I was dealing with, I remember making a conscious decision that I wasn’t going to be negative. I’d seen enough to know I didn’t want to be that way.
With patience, practice and determination there is no reason why we cannot change. It’s all about perceptions and how you see yourself. If someone tells you you’re being negative or critical about yourself, accept that you probably are. That’s the first thing.
The problem for many of us is that we take what is said about us, as a slur on our characters. But what others say about us should be taken as constructive and not personal.
It’s true that we cannot change others, we can only change our own perceptions. It starts and ends with us.