I have heard the saying ‘be yourself’ so many times before. As easy as it to say, in reality it’s not something we know what it really means, or know how to do. I myself have struggled with it.
But perhaps to work it out, we should make a start by looking at our life and our decisions. The decisions we make must be our own. That we must learn to accept ourselves and we do that by working out everything we need to know about ourselves. What we like and what we dislike, what makes us, us then what we’d like to do with our life.
Allow yourself to emotionally and spiritually grow. I believe that’s the first place to start. That when we allow someone else to define us, we can never be ourselves. Work on accepting your mistakes, your decisions and move on. Your decisions back then were right for you.
Stop worrying about how others perceive you, I stopped a long time ago. We can’t please everyone all of the time, so logic tells us there’s no point in trying. Sadly, always having to be on our guard because of something we’ve said, only serves to make us more guarded. Let go of your concerns so that you can use our own considerations as a filter.
Finally, learn to be open and honest about yourself and try not to beat yourself up on the things you think you’ve failed at. There are lots of things we don’t like about ourselves physically, but learn to like those parts of you, also.
Only then will you unconditionally accept being you.