We spend a lifetime talking ourselves into things, exaggerating what we think and believe it will happen. We worry ourselves half to death and then a few days later, what we thought was going to happen, doesn’t happen in the way we anticipated it would.
Sound familiar? I am sure many of us will have done it. It’s something I used to do as a child around illness. The hard part is learning how to turn such negative patterns into patterns that break the chain on our negative thinking. We copy and emulate negativity through what we see in our childhood from our parents, in our environment.
What they do, we do. It’s very difficult to change what we see, when we’re constantly living amongst family who only see life through a negative lens. Although one of my parents was positive, the other wasn’t.
I am sure my negativity as a child had a lot to do with that, but being around negativity taught me that I needed to do things differently. I was lucky that I understood negativity, but it would take me many years to go on to change what I saw.
How did I manage to turn things around?
I found a more spiritual path. When we believe and understand things happen for a reason, we learn to equate in our own minds that there is no point in holding on to things we can’t change and therefore it’s easier to let those things go.
If something is going to happen and it’s out of our control and we can’t change it, there is no point in worrying about that either. When something happens and you can’t change that something, accept that you can’t.
To do nothing isn’t an option, all that does is allow us to worry more. Learning to be pro-active, to change an outcome is the way forward. when we look for a way forward we take out half the worry, the other half of our worry dissipates when we bring about a new conclusion to the one we originally had.