We will spend a lifetime talking ourselves into things, exaggerating those thoughts and believing it will happen. Sound familiar?
It’s something I used to do as a child around illness. The hard part is learning how to turn negative patterns into patterns that break our negative thinking. We emulate negativity through what we see in our childhoods from our parents and our environment. What they do, we unconsciously copy.
It is very difficult to change what we see when we’re constantly living with people who only see life through a negative lens.
Other people’s negativity in my childhood had a lot to do with my own negativity, but being around negativity taught me that I needed to do things differently. I was lucky that I understood negativity, but it would take me many years to go on to change what I saw. I found a more spiritual path.
When we believe and understand things happen for a reason, we learn to equate in our own minds that there is no point in holding on to things we can’t change and therefore it’s easier to let those things go.
If something is going to happen and it’s out of our control and we can’t change it, there is no point in worrying about that either. When something happens and you can’t change that something, accept that you can’t. To do nothing isn’t an option, all that does is allow us to worry more.
Learning to be pro-active, so that we are able to change an outcome, is the way forward. When we’re proactive we take out half the worry, the other half of our worry dissipates when we bring about a new conclusion to the one we originally had.