Better days

I have to say I’ve had better days and this doesn’t seem to be one of them. I’m struggling with most things today. I just can’t think straight; I’ve had so much going on in the last week.

Since my father passed we’re in a different place now because of the decisions he’s made. When we lose anyone, we all have that transitional period to go through, where we can’t always dictate the rules, they are as they’ve been left. What we all must do is work at changing them.

We think the same way as we’ve always done and that’s down to the way we’ve been conditioned to think.

1 Aug, 2013

8 thoughts on “Better days

  1. I hope things become easier for you in the coming days.

    No, we can’t change things that are already done but we can learn to live with and get on with our lives. When I’m faced with a situation like this, I just accept that what is done is done and there isn’t anything I can do about it, so why worry over it.

    Yes it does make our lives difficult sometimes, but we can’t dwell on things or it will eat us up. We can change the present and future but we can’t change the past.

    I’m going to be facing the passing of my mother soon. Thank goodness she is taking care of things and making sure things are settled before she passes. She has been dividing her belongings between her children and grand-children. That will take a load off my sister and me.

    There are some things that won’t be taken care of unless someone (me!) says something but I really don’t see it happening. I don’t want to upset mom.

    I will just learn to live with it and do the best I can in the future.

    1. Thanks Lisa. I know we’re all different, but from own experience not dealing with things that perhaps need to be dealt with, will always be there in the background unless we deal with them.

      Like you in my formative years Lisa I would do the same. I didn’t want to upset the applecart so would leave things alone and that’s fine as long as we let those things go. To live with something that has not got anything to do with us but we have to live with isn’t easy or fair.

      I know that when I say something, tactfully of course, it changes my mind set. In a way things become easier. I would always opt for that. Others are responsible for where they put you. We are responsible for where we put ourselves.

    1. I agree holidays can help, although they can be stressful too. I will have to work and make sure my health holds up. That’s my biggest problem.

  2. Yes I hear you there! There has been a lot going on around me too, which can become very overwhelming!

    My girlfriend is really trying to help with some of these decisions since she knows more about them than I do. I was very much conditioned on how to think as a child but not shown how to actually do things that most people normally learn how to do.

    It’s also very hard when so many feelings surface at once that it’s hard to sort them out at one time. I find myself wanting to just shut out the outside world sometimes.

    Hopefully we can both get through these trying times with a minimum amount of damage! Hang in there!

    1. Thanks Randy. I think we will! We both know what we’ve been through and how things should have been.

      What any one must do regardless of their past is put all of what they had to deal with to one side and get on with they must do in the present time.

      We cannot change what’s been, but we can continue to change and make things better in our present. I believe that generally speaking If we could all do that, we’d cope that much better with what we have to deal with now.

  3. I might have posted this quote before, but it is just as apt here too. Someone once told me that ‘things come and things go’ and she was so right. Things will get better!

    1. I also agree that things come and things go and that nothing stays the same. It’s just hard waiting for that time to pass when things are tough and they all come at once.

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