As adults, how many of us blame our parents for the way we’ve turned out? Funnily enough, I never blamed my parents, instead I chose to find understanding on my disability.
But it’s obvious why we may point the finger and in some cases it’s justified, but how long can we continue to blame our parents for our misgivings without taking back some form of control for ourselves?
Like my situation, many of us may have been hurt, emotionally and psychologically and that isn’t acceptable, but continue to blame our parents is to deny ourselves the chance to leave our past behind and be at peace.
The more we blame, the more we live in denial and living in denial, not choosing to take responsibility back, may hurt us more. And even though we may have reason to blame, it would be more beneficial for us to move on.
As adults, it is important our lives are about us. Not letting go, means we will begin to lose our sense of reason, our sense of hope, our sense of optimism, and that will destroy any future potential we have.
It is important to let go of anger and resentment. When we can begin to understand ourselves and our experiences more, we can begin to rebuild our lives. As I have done, we need to use our own experiences as a stepping-stone, so that we change our children’s lives too and our relationship with them.
After all, when our children become adults, would we want them blaming us for their misgivings?