As adults, how many of us will continue to blame our parents for the way we’ve turned out? It’s obvious why we may point the finger and in some cases it’s justified, but how long can we continue to blame our parents for our misgivings, without taking back some form of control for ourselves?
Many of us have been hurt, emotionally, psychologically and physically and that’s totally unacceptable, but to continue to blame our parents is to deny ourselves the chance to leave our past behind and be at peace.
The more we blame, the more we live in denial and living in denial, not choosing to take responsibility back, will only hurt us more. And even though we may have reason to blame our parents, it is more beneficial for us to move on. As adults, our lives must start being about us.
Not letting go, means that over time we will begin to lose our sense of reason, our sense of hope, our sense of optimism, and that will destroy any future potential we have. When we can let go of anger and resentment, when we can begin to understand ourselves and our experiences more, we can begin to rebuild our lives.
We must use our experiences as a stepping-stone, so that we change our children’s lives too and our relationship with them. After all, when our children become adults, would we want them blaming us for their misgivings?