It’s a fact that our childhood will throw up many issues based around the environment we grow up in. Whatever we have had to contend with as a child, our experiences will always affect us and although it’s far from right, none of us can change those experiences.
We also cannot wish for things that didn’t happen. If anything, we must find a way through, so that we move on from our experiences. It becomes counter-productive, when we carry and continue to carry the hurt that we associate with the pain from those experiences and unconsciously begin to use those experiences in a hostile way, by directing what we feel at those who aren’t to blame.
The people who may be to blame are often victims of their own circumstances. That doesn’t make what they do right, but it does go some way to help us understand why.