Breaking one’s trust

Breaking one’s trust would be even harder if that person turned out to be a parent. We assume that what we’re told is the way things are.

I don’t believe anyone consciously sets out to break another person’s trust and that when trust is broken it’s often not because we don’t care. Unfortunately, we all have things that we unconsciously deal with that get in the way of life.

It may also be that we’ve not done something wrong, but other people change the course of our lives and with it the things we’ve worked so hard to build up. Out of embarrassment rather than them tell the truth, they hide what they know is the truth and leave others to pick up the pieces once they’re gone.

That would be a hard pill for anyone to swallow. It doesn’t make what they’ve done right. The only thing we can do is learn to come to terms with what’s been done and work to do the opposite.

3 Mar, 2014

8 thoughts on “Breaking one’s trust

  1. Trust is one of those things that takes a long, long time to build up, but is broken in an instant.

    Re-building that trust again takes an age and sometimes it is never re-built. I know people who have broken my trust and that will always be a part of our relationship.

    The trust of a parent should never ever be in doubt and I can’t think of anything more important, period. When that trust is broken that is terrible.

  2. Yes, it’s the worst when parents are the one to do this, especially to their own children. It would also explain why I’ve trusted the wrong people and then being so angry about it.

    After wasting so much of my life, now I realise the patterns. I’m hoping I can learn to trust my instincts when dealing with people.

    1. Yes when a parent breaks the trust with their children, it can have a marked negative effect on their children, on how they see and respond to others who aren’t their parents.

      You realise and see those patterns and that’s great. Put your trust in your instincts. Your instincts won’t see you wrong.

  3. One of my three siblings has managed to break that trust over the years and repairing that trust seems impossible at this point. I may always be suspicious.

    We may not always know who to trust, but I think instinctively we know who not to trust.

    1. Thanks Tim. I think you’re absolutely spot on. I believe we instinctively know who we can and who we can’t trust.

      Yes, repairing any form of trust once it has been broken is difficult, but not impossible.

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