Breaking one’s trust

Breaking one’s trust would be even harder if that person turned out to be a parent. When we’re children we never stop to question our parents, or our lives. With all relationships, we assume that what we are told is the way things will be and is what we need to hear.

I don’t believe anyone wittingly sets out to break another person’s trust and that when trust is broken, it’s often not because we don’t care. Unfortunately, we all have things that we deal with. Things that happen in our lives that we wish we could change, but know that we can’t and those things stand in our way.

It may also not be that we’ve done something wrong, but because other people who come into our lives may change the course of our lives and with it the things we’ve worked so hard to build up. Out of embarrassment, rather than the truth be told, we hide what we know is the truth and leave others to pick up the pieces once we’re gone.

That would be a hard pill for anyone to swallow. It doesn’t make what they’ve done right, it just makes it what it is. Breaking ones trust can never be changed on that particular issue.

The only thing we can do is learn to come to terms with it and do the opposite in our own lives, with others in our lives.


3 Mar, 2014

8 thoughts on “Breaking one’s trust

  1. Trust is one of those things that takes a long, long time to build up, but is broken in an instant. Re-building that trust again takes an age and sometimes it is never re-built. I know people who have broken my trust and that will always be a part of our relationship.

    The trust of a parent should never ever be in doubt and I can’t think of anything more important, period.

    When that trust is broken that is terrible.

  2. Yes, it’s the worst when parents are the one to do this, especially to their own children. It would also explain why I’ve had such a bad habit of trusting the wrong people and then being so angry about it.

    Only now after wasting so much of my life do I realize the patterns. I’m just hoping I can learn to trust my instincts when dealing with people so I don’t waste what time I have left!

    1. Yes when a parent breaks the trust with their children, it can have a marked negative effect on their children on how they see and respond to others.

      You realise and see those patterns Randy and that’s great. Put your trust in your instincts. Your instincts won’t see you wrong. I am sure you can turn this around.

  3. One of my three siblings has managed to break that trust over the years and repairing that trust seems impossible at this point; I may always be suspicious.

    We may not always know who to trust, but I think instinctively we know who not to trust.

    1. Thanks Tim. I think you’re absolutely spot on. I believe we instinctively know who we can and who we can’t trust.

      Repairing any form of trust once it has been broken is difficult.

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