I believe that confidence is something we all have to work at. It’s not something I had in abundance as a child but as the adult I know exactly how it works. That how we feel is usually how we act. When we feel good and confident about ourselves, we will feel good about others too.
If parents get the parenting thing right, they will become the main source of a child’s sense of self-worth and confidence. I am frustrated sometimes, because this wasn’t something that was afforded to me. In the past it was easy for me to question my own self-worth, particularly when I saw babies and young children with their parents and often wondered whether they would be luckier than I was.
I’m not bitter about the fact that I didn’t grow up with the tools so that I would become confident, but it does hit hard when I have issues to deal with and my sense of self-worth hits rock bottom. I believe in myself, I believe in my abilities, I couldn’t have written in this way without it, but my confidence sometimes lets me down just when I need it the most. But that depends on what I’m having to deal with. When I think about it that is the part I get most frustrated at.
I believe that both confidence and self-esteem are the catalyst for good emotional and physical health. They are the foundations to a happy and peaceful life, without which we will always find ourselves struggling in times of crisis.