As a child, I learned not to talk about my feelings, but I am able to do that now through my blog. I see talking as a necessity. I call a spade a spade. I describe things as they are. All scenarios are either black or white, there are no grey areas.
How we see things is important, but how we express ourselves is even more important. As a child, I didn’t express myself well. Over the years I have learned to speak my own truth, even if my experiences and circumstances are emotionally difficult to talk about.
And although I call a spade a spade, my version is more palatable. Although my life has been negative, I am choosing not to own, see or live my life that way now. I tend not to sugar coat my experiences either.
What I write, is the way in which my experiences happened. Denial and wanting to see our circumstances differently don’t help. We must all face our demons eventually, if we want to live a successful life.
How we speak the truth matters. It is part of the healing process. We can be truthful, frank and direct and find a different way to be, without being outspoken, rude or impolite. Unfortunately, many of us do not strike the right balance. We may be outspoken to the point of being frank, blunt and rude.
That depends on where we are in our own personal head space. As we go about life, we may mirror outwardly what we feel inside. When confronted by someone who is on the receiving end of the way we are instead of being honest, we tend to refute it and march it straight back.