How many of us go with decisions that have been made that we don’t agree with, but have no choice but to agree to?
This seems to be the pattern for me and has been for all of my adult life. When it comes to cancer treatments, in terms of pain and suffering I know that my decision for my father not to have treatment would be the best decision and in my father’s best interest, but another situation has now arisen where the path my father chose to go down no longer exists.
When we my mother was first diagnosed with lung cancer, she made her own decisions on her choice of therapies and never swayed once from her decisions. In the longer term she was spared from all the side effects, associated with steroid treatment and chemotherapy.
Choices are now in place and conventional treatment is being given. Having had a chance to catch up with my family at the beginning of the week, this is not the route I wanted for my father. In turn, my father now wants a cast iron guarantee that if he continues to go down the steroid and chemotherapy route, he will be able to go back to his old life and even though I am not a doctor, I know this isn’t going to happen.
Being terminally ill and 83 years of age also makes it less likely. All it will do is buy more time, than he would have had without the treatment. I want him to be at peace, but can see now this isn’t being achieved. It never could through chemotherapy.
In my opinion, for anyone going through chemotherapy, it all becomes a heavy price to pay in the longer term because of its side effects and quality of life during the treatment period.