For some it’s become part of their personality, for others it’s an age thing. Growing up with parents or siblings who constantly moan about their life. Do you also spend your life constantly moaning as a consequence of a grievance, because of the things your parents have done?
If I have a grievance I deal with it. I don’t dwell and I don’t moan. Moaning is negative and once we start, it’s virtually impossible to stop the pattern once you start. Some of us don’t even know we’re doing it, as it’s now become part of everyday speak.
Unfortunately, when we hold on to a grievance, moan and do nothing about that grievance, it not only affects us but affects others too. For some people moaning has a purpose. When two people moan about something they’ve both experienced, in some respects it becomes helpful, because it gives both parties the opportunity to share their experiences and find common ground on those experiences.
It’s hard however, when one person does it and the other person doesn’t. It can take its toll on our emotional health, but when we continue to moan without doing anything about it that’s when it becomes negative and destructive.