It is true to say that we all inherit character traits from our parents, from our environment and our peers, but what if the character traits we have are there because of a condition we deal with?
I was always considered to be lazy, at home and in school by my family. It didn’t matter what I did, or how hard I tried, I failed to make the grade. My parents never talked about my struggles, but assumed I would catch up. My twin through hard work and determination did much better in school.
It was always going to be inevitable that I would struggle emotionally, physically and academically because I have Cerebral Palsy, but until others understood the bigger picture of Cerebral Palsy and what I had to deal with, it certainly didn’t blend with people’s expectations of me.
Not everyone will be labelled, but it’s true there’s still an element of that in society today. If we’re slow or don’t do something the first time, it’s often put down to other things, rather than it’s because we have something that we deal with that is stopping us from doing what people expect.
For me this is the bigger picture of what I deal with. Inevitably, some of us will have traits that are annoying to others, but many of those traits will be because we have formed bad habits that we find hard to break. For those of us who deal with a disability, we will have certain character traits, because we don’t have the capabilities to behave in any other way.
There are many other conditions too, such as Bipolar, dealing with memory loss and Dyslexia. Any condition where the brain has been affected in some way. It’s very easy to fail to understand why people behave in the way they do, but I believe we genuinely need to stand back and be more accepting of people and why they have their character traits.
If it’s not just down to a bad habit, we need to be more accepting of that. One thing is certain though, we would be much better placed to begin to help others when we come to understand. I believe it’s now time to act and change.