It’s true that we all inherit character traits from our parents and spending time with our peers, but what if the character traits we have are there because of a condition we deal with?
I was always considered to be lazy at home and in school by my family. It didn’t matter what I did, or how hard I tried, I failed to make the grade. My parents sadly never talked about the fact that I was falling behind in school.
It was always going to be inevitable that I would struggle emotionally, physically and academically because of Cerebral Palsy, but sadly no one took the time to understand or ask questions that would help them understand ‘me’ why I presented a certain way and what I had to deal with. The things I struggled with sadly didn’t tie in with people’s expectations of me.
Inevitably, some of us without a disability will have traits that are annoying to others, but many of those traits are because we’ve formed bad habits. For those who deal with a disability, we will present and have certain emotional character traits, because we don’t have the capabilities to behave in any other way.
There are many other conditions too, such as Bipolar, dealing with memory loss and Dyslexia, indeed any condition where the brain has been affected in some way. It’s very easy to fail to understand why people behave in the way they do. We genuinely need to stand back and be more accepting of people.
One thing is certain, we would be much better placed to begin to help others when we come to understand, instead of assuming why someone presents a certain way and we still get it wrong. We must ask and simply not assume.