It is true that we all inherit character traits from our parents and through spending time with our peers, but what if the character traits we have are there because of a disability we deal with?
I was always considered lazy at home. But it didn’t matter how hard I tried, I failed to make the grade, particularly with school. I’m not sure what school really thought, but no one ever followed through on the fact that I was falling behind. The things I struggled with didn’t tie in with their expectations of me.
With a disability it was always going to be inevitable that I would struggle emotionally, mentally, physically and academically, but no one took the time to understand or ask questions that would help them understand why I presented a certain way.
Inevitably, some of us without a disability will have traits that are annoying to others, but many of those traits are because we’ve formed bad habits. For those who deal with a disability, we will present and have certain character traits, because we don’t have the capabilities to behave in any other way.
There are many other conditions too, such as Bipolar, dealing with memory loss and Dyslexia, indeed any condition where the brain has been affected in some way. Generally, we must stand back and be more accepting of people and what they deal with.
We will be much better placed to begin to help others when we understand and learn, instead of assuming and get it wrong. We must ask and not assume.