It’s true that we all inherit character traits from our parents, from our environment and our peers, but what if the character traits we have are there because of a condition we deal with?
I was always considered to be lazy at home and in school by my family. It didn’t matter what I did, or how hard I tried, I failed to make the grade. My parents never talked about my falling behind in school and assumed I would catch up.
It was always going to be inevitable that I would struggle emotionally, physically and academically because of Cerebral Palsy, but sadly no one took the time to understand ‘me’ why I presented a certain way and what I had to deal with. It certainly didn’t blend in with people’s expectations of me.
Inevitably, some of us without a disability will have traits that are annoying to others, but many of those traits are because we’ve formed bad habits. For those who deal with a disability, we will present and have certain emotional character traits, because we don’t have the capabilities to behave in any other way.
There are many other conditions too, such as Bipolar, dealing with memory loss and Dyslexia. Any condition where the brain has been affected in some way. It’s very easy to fail to understand why people behave in the way they do, but we genuinely need to stand back and be more accepting of those people.
One thing is certain, we would be much better placed to begin to help others when we come to understand, instead of assuming why someone presents a certain way or seems to be struggling, just ask don’t assume.