How many of us validate ourselves by wanting perfection? We look for perfection, convincing ourselves that other areas of our lives will be right when we have it, when in reality we should be seeking the opposite.
The idea of a world in which everyone and everything is perfect is nonsensical. I have seen people continue to change things because they want things better than the way they have it. Instead, we should consciously appreciate what we have.
As a child, I wanted to be normal, like everyone else without a disability. I wanted to walk properly and without a limp, I wanted to be able to walk heel-toe. I was constantly checking the heel on my left shoe, to see how it was wearing down, and would get cross with myself, because it looked and wore differently to my right.
When I crayoned outside the lines, I would throw the colouring sheet in the bin and start again. The outlines on my handwriting were never formed properly because they were inconsistent and too small. I’m lucky that need for perfection didn’t spill over into anything else.
My being a perfectionist seemed to be centred around my anger, not so much around me. I believe I have a form of OCD, which co-exists through cerebral palsy. Chasing perfection all the time, can be exhausting.
It almost becomes an impossible quest, one that may end with disappointment, because no one can expect to be the best all the time. The bar will always be raised. Perfection may not always be within our grasp.
Having to chase perfection can be a stressful burden. Having to keep up standards is stressful enough and being the best at something, is better than being the best at everything.
Being the best at everything means we’ll never settle for second, but also having to be the best all the times, means we’ll be too stressed to enjoy just being okay.