Since I started my blog 9 years ago, I haven’t talked about my child neglect in detail, but unless you perceive each situation with neglect in mind, it’s not always easy to understand or equate that what you’re going through is in fact neglect.
I didn’t equate or understand that having my disability mentally and emotionally ignored was child neglect. Perhaps it’s good that I didn’t, otherwise I might not have coped at all. But those mental struggles never left me. Through my disability, there was also an element of physical struggle too. Not knowing made it worse.
Child neglect is a deficit in meeting a child’s basic needs, in other words failing to provide adequate emotional, social and educational needs, in my case ignoring the basics of helping me understand and giving me the emotional and mental support I needed in dealing with a disability.
Keeping me in the dark for 46 years was the biggest travesty. Through detailed correspondence, my case was known to consultants, who after collaboration, decided to ignore the fact that my needs were being overlooked.
Although child neglect depends on how society perceives the parent’s behaviour, not all authorities will know about a child’s circumstances. Child neglect isn’t dependant on how parents believe they are behaving towards their child.
Where options are available and parents fail to provide for their child, that is different from failure to provide for their child when options aren’t available.