Childhood memories

Peering out of the window and seeing a neighbour going out with her daughter, for a split second my thoughts went back to my own childhood with my parents, and I found myself wondering whether my neighbour would accomplish great things with her child.

I understand why my thoughts went back there. We may sometimes stop to question whether our parents have got things right for us, and then use those comparisons to quantify where we are in life, how happy we are, or how satisfied we are with our lot. Or maybe it has something to do with our less than perfect childhood.

We innately take our behaviour from our parents, but it’s usually only when we stop to question what we know that we can begin to change what we didn’t like, or what didn’t work for us. It’s only when we hear ourselves repeating our mother’s words and we say, ‘I’m turning into my mother’ that we realise that is what we are doing.

Sometimes it’s not a bad thing, but it’s not always a good thing either. It just means we must work harder through our parenting, at finding a place with our own children so that they may write a positive history for themselves.

It’s very hard to get everything right as a parent and it’s something we may not accomplish, but if our children can see that we have done our best and that our best is good enough, then we will have achieved greatly.

I believe it’s important for us to make a positive impact on our children. What we leave behind will stay with them, long after we’re gone. It will also give them a positive view on their own lives as they go out into the world.

It is important for us to try and get it right because it’s right to get it right and so that when we’re no longer around, their memories of us are positive ones.

9 Jan, 2011

6 thoughts on “Childhood memories

  1. I loved my childhood even though my parents were poor, I felt as we were the richest family in the world. Every day things changed and I guess growing up on our farm, the country lifestyle was our treasure.

    There is something precious about our childhood memories Ilana …

    1. Mike you hit the nail on the head, because although your parents were poor, you weren’t made to feel that you were. Your childhood memories sounds idyllic, something any child would love to have. I know my children would.

      It captures the imagination, freedom, tranquility, but most of all peace. I am pleased for you that you were lucky enough to have it. Your parents clearly got that right. Just wonderful.

  2. I grew up in an average American family and have fond memories from my childhood, mainly how much my mother and her family impressed on us how important family are.

    We still have a close family. All my cousins, aunts and uncles on my mother’s side, get together at least twice a year. My dad’s family was close too, just not as close as my mom’s family… and my sister and I are close.

    My daughter has fond memories of her childhood also, but she also remembers the bad times that I tried to shield her from, but not always successful in that regard. That’s one of the reasons I divorced her father, because of the fights and shouting and breaking things. Unfortunately she remembers those times.

    I also think she learned from those bad times as how not to live. She is a strong woman and doesn’t put up with it from her boyfriend and others.

    Yeah, I love those memories. They are good times even though I had medical problems and my parents worried about me too much they included me in everything especially family.

    1. Lisa, many thanks for talking about your childhood memories. Families should be the most important people in our lives, but for some the realities are so different.

      It is really lovely to read your positive thoughts on how your parents got that so right. These values will stay with you forever. So glad you have these memories.

  3. It is funny that you would write about this subject. I too find myself thinking the same thing when I see a mother and child.

    I have very fond childhood memories and hope that my son has the same of his childhood memories with us.

    1. I am pleased you had fond childhood memories Maria. It certainly helps us in our adult lives. I hope your son has fond childhood memories too.

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