Confidence is the backbone of our ability to function in our lives. There are so many things we will get wrong, when we lack the confidence. If parents engage their children when they’re small, they will engage with confidence, as adults.
Children may not understand how to articulate their thoughts with their parents in the early years, but they learn from us as parents, so it’s important we teach them basic values such as using please and thank you, being polite and courteous, understanding their behaviour and having consideration for others. Those will all help build their confidence.
Positive feedback from us is vital and will help children continually re-assess where they are. Praise helps children’s confidence grow without them being consciously aware that’s what it’s doing. Self-expression is something that children need to experience from an early age.
Expression is necessary and should always be encouraged. Where a parent’s mind is pre-occupied, they will multi-task on their listening skills without giving children their full attention, but parents must try and change that. We must want to take an interest in our children’s hobbies. Hobbies are confidence building.
When it comes to criticism, if we’re going to criticise our children for something they’ve done, it’s important we make what we say constructive. Children believe the things parents tell them, so it’s important to be specific and only refer to their behaviour.