We should choose being happy over being angry or even sad. We allow ourselves to be what we emulate to the world.
When I was little I didn’t understand the logistics behind my behaviour. I just knew I was angry. I chose subconsciously to front my anger. I believe and see now that we choose our feelings, we get to choose how we want to be. When we allow others to influence us, we are giving them power over our emotions and that influences how we behave back.
When we take control of our emotions we are less likely to emulate those negative emotions. We take control. How many of us react out of anger? We’re quick to get our feelings out so that we protect ourselves, but this is not what we’re doing. I believe it has the opposite effect. I also believe that if we take a few steps back, we will have more chance of coming back in with a more appropriate answer.
We usually impart a reaction rather than an action of something that’s said and that can be more damaging. Over the years I have learned how to direct myself so that I am more informed about my choices and got rid of the anger. I had to take control and that’s what I chose to do.
I also knew that if I reacted angrily to others, I would alienate myself from those around me. My family labelled me and whilst my attitude was a consequence of my physical problems that weren’t addressed, it wasn’t the best of labels to have. It took many years for this to change.
We need to make sure that the actions of others do not influence our reactions on what they say. We need to consciously own our thoughts and feelings so that what is said doesn’t, affect our response. It’s a habit that needs to be relearned. The same way we learn to react inappropriately, we must learn to act appropriately.
I believe we choose our feelings. We choose what we want to experience whether we know that’s what we’re doing or not.