We should choose to be happy over being angry or sad. As the child, I didn’t understand why I was so angry. That what we emulate to the world is what we become.
Fast forward as the adult, I believe, see and understand things differently now that we choose our feelings. That when we allow others to influence us, we are giving them power over our emotions and that influences how we behave back. I also believe that when we take control of our emotions, we’re less likely to emulate negative emotions.
How many of us react out of anger? We’re quick to get our feelings out so that we can protect ourselves. We usually impart a reaction rather than an action of something that’s said and that can be more damaging, but It’s important that we’re in control and understand how to deal with our emotions.
Over the years I learned how to deal with anger. I also knew that if I didn’t deal with my issues and continue to react angrily to others, I would continue to alienate myself from those around me. I’ve had to do a lot of soul searching and believe that needs to happen.
Although my family had labelled me, and my attitude was a consequence of a disability that was never addressed, it wasn’t the best of labels to have. But on our part, we need to make sure that the actions of others do not influence our reactions. As the child I was too young to understand that.
We need to own our thoughts and feelings so that what others say doesn’t affect our response. On our part it’s a habit that needs to be relearned. The same way we learn to react inappropriately, we must learn to act appropriately.