We should choose to be happy over being angry or sad. As a child I didn’t understand my behaviour, I just knew I was angry. We allow ourselves to be what we emulate to the world. I believe and see now that we choose our feelings. When we allow others to influence us, we are giving them power over our emotions and that influences how we behave back.
When we take control of our emotions, we are less likely to emulate negative emotions. How many of us will react out of anger? We’re quick to get our feelings out so that we protect ourselves, but that will have the opposite effect. We usually impart a reaction rather than an action of something that’s said and that can be more damaging, but it’s important that we’re in control and understand how to deal with our emotions.
Over the years I have learned how to get rid of the anger. I have done a lot of soul searching and believe that really needs to happen. I also knew that if I didn’t deal with my issues and reacted angrily to others, I would alienate myself from those around me. And although my family had already labelled me, my attitude was a consequence of a disability that was never addressed; it wasn’t the best of labels to have.
We need to make sure that the actions of others do not influence our reactions on what they say. We need to consciously own our thoughts and feelings so that what’s said doesn’t affect our response. It’s a habit that needs to be relearned. The same way we learn to react inappropriately, we must learn to act appropriately.
I believe we choose our feelings. We choose what we want to experience whether we know that’s what we’re doing or not.