Co-existing with anxiety

My thoughts about anxiety are never far away. Being a parent myself, I find it hard to equate that my anxiety as a child was completely overlooked and could have been dealt with as I had reached out many times. Although I didn’t know the bad thoughts I had as a child were from anxiety, it is hard to imagine now years on that my life could have been made easier.

As the anxiety I deal with is down to my disability, I must continue to find ways to manage it. I still struggle with the concept of having had worked blindly, the deceit and other people’s judgments. Those bother me more than the anxiety itself. But it is not being equipped to help myself that reinforced my struggles that I find difficult to come to terms with.

The younger we are, with help the easier it is easier to adjust to our circumstances. As children we find ways through. But I know that without internalising everything, my emotions and anxiety would have been worse.

Even though my thoughts are more centered now, without my understanding, it would have taken me longer to come through the other end.

24 Jul, 2018

2 thoughts on “Co-existing with anxiety

  1. Yes, it would have been great if our parents would have acknowledged our issues and helped us learn how to deal with them rather than just ignore them and expect us to learn how to deal with them on our own.

    I just have such a hard time comprehending, as a parent myself, as to how it is possible to just pretend nothing is wrong with my child.

    My own daughter’s issues weren’t ever properly addressed and I have seen how ill equipped she is to deal with the real world, which is going to chew her up and spit her out.

    The worst part is that she has quite literally turned her back on me and refused any offer of help from me, so there isn’t anything I can do to protect her from herself.

    My own issues have to be put on hold for a while; I need to escape from my current situation so that I can deal with them on my own.

    1. Thanks Randy. Yes of course. Just think about how less anxious we both could have been.

      You’re seeing your life clearly, as I see my life also and that’s good. It becomes less of a challenge when we see things clearly and then it’s up to us to make the relevant changes.

      It’s something your daughter should be thinking about, but perhaps that’s for another day. It’s clear from what you say that your daughter is a product of her mum, who has turned your daughter away from you.

      Until your daughter understands her life and sees you’re a ‘good guy’ (and you are) there’s not much you can do now, but that’s not to say her mind will never change.

      I think sometimes it takes just one event for the light to switch on. Although I was aware of my circumstances, I also knew that it was a matter of time that something in my own circumstances needed to change.

      Sadly, the one event in my life that I didn’t want to change was my mother’s illness, but I know that without her illness, I may never have know about cerebral palsy. She paved the way for me to find out.

      It can happen for you too Randy. Your daughter must be open to the idea that she can change her own destiny. She needs to see things as they are, which is how you see things.

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