Supportive relationships are important for our mental and physical health, without which we will begin to struggle.
It’s never easy walking away, but it has to be better than dealing with confrontational relationships. No one should have to put up with confrontation.
The following may help:
- When we try to change anyone who is difficult, it may only result in a power struggle, causing defensiveness and inviting criticism in through the back door. Unfortunately, that person will always see us as being the difficult ones;
- Try not to entice or challenge the other person. By keeping conversations neutral you’re not inviting problems in. People tend to have their own thoughts and opinions, so it’s probably a good idea to keep the conversation simple;
- Be aware of how much control you have. Be assertive when communicating and to make sure the other person doesn’t cross their boundaries;
- It’s important to know the other person. It’s easy to always want to give someone the benefit of the doubt all the time. Keep anything important to yourself;
- If the other person isn’t capable of affection emotional support, try to accept them that way. Part of the problem is hoping people change. It is us who should change.
Take time for yourself and keep your distance if you need to, until the coast is clear. No one should have to put up with confrontations.