Supportive relationships are important for both our mental and physical health, without which we will begin to struggle. It’s never easy walking away, but it must be better than dealing with confrontational relationships. No one should have to put up with confrontation.
The following may help:
- When we try to change anyone, who is difficult, it can only result in a power struggle causing defensiveness and inviting criticism in through the back door. Unfortunately, that person will always see us as being the difficult ones;
- Try not to entice or challenge the other person. By keeping conversations neutral you’re not inviting problems in. People tend to have their own thoughts and opinions on subjects like politics or religion, so it is probably a good idea to keep the conversation simple;
- Be aware of how much control you have and continue to work on keeping control. Be assertive when communicating and make sure the other person doesn’t cross their boundaries, so that you are the one made to feel uncomfortable;
- I believe it’s important to know the other person and his negative traits. It’s very easy to always want to give someone the benefit of the doubt all the time, but that never works in the longer term. Keep anything important to yourself;
- If they’re not capable of affection and support, try to accept them that way. That way you will never be disappointed, because you won’t expect. Part of our problem is hoping that people will change;
Finally, take time out for yourself and keep your distance if you need to. In the longer term if problems continue to persist it’s probably time to cut ties. Cutting ties will help with reducing stress and anxiety. No one should have to put up with confrontations.