When I was a little girl I used to avoid issues and situations rather than work through them, but realistically issues will always come up. They’re usually the things we don’t want to have to deal with.
Feeling uneasy about an issue or situation leads to anxiety, and our first reaction is to avoid it altogether. We must face and conquer situations, or anxiety will begin to control us. Perhaps, therefore, we need to understand why we have anxiety, so we can focus on the right responses, instead of choosing to walk away.
As a child, living with anxiety meant I would constantly remove myself from situations where I needed to take control. I was continually reinforcing my negative actions without realising, but as the adult I have learned to take a different view.
That when we face the fear, however tough that’s going to be, there is always the possibility that things will work out. Situations can be resolved, and goals can be achieved and however painful it is, through experience things always get easier. Nothing ever stays the same.
Of course, overcoming any form of fear or avoidance takes practice. It’s not an overnight fix, but one thing is assured: the more you practise working through situations, the easier those situations become.