When I was a little girl I used to avoid situations rather than work through them, but situations will always come up, from school to jobs to personal stuff and they’re usually the things we don’t want to have to deal with.
Feeling uneasy about any situation leads to anxiety and our first reaction to that is to avoid the situation altogether. Unfortunately, we have to face and conquer situations, or the anxiety we feel will begin to control us. We need to understand why we have anxiety, so we can focus on the right responses.
That way we get to sort the problem out and hopefully achieve our goals instead of walking away from them. Apprehension and fear are usually the reason we walk away. In my formative years my life was continually based on negative situations, which were always being reinforced.
As a child, my inability through fear to take control meant that I would constantly remove myself from situations where I needed to accomplish or take control. I was constantly reinforcing my negative actions, making excuses not to do anything. I withdrew early on. I’m not sure how much I’d talked myself into, or how far the fear and anxiety went.
But as an adult, I learned to take a different view. I believe that when we face the fear, however tough we feel that’s going to be, there’s always the possibility that things will work out. Situations will be resolved and goals should be achieved. However painful it is, with experience things always get easier.
Of course, overcoming any form of fear or avoidance takes patience and practice. It’s not an overnight fix… but one thing is assured and it is my belief that the more you practice it, the easier it becomes.