Some people use criticism as a weapon, partly because they know they can and also because we don’t stop them.
Critical people don’t think about the way they speak, they just speak. They’ll just bleat something out, then perhaps think about what they’ve said after they’ve said it, by which time it’s often too late to retract what they’ve said.
Critical people are critical because of how they feel about themselves. But perhaps we should remember there is always a bigger picture to someone’s emotions. We don’t just let off steam at someone because we want to hurt them. We’re not always consciously aware of why we’re not happy, or why we’re feeling angry. Those feelings are usually buried in our subconscious.
Deep-rooted emotions and beliefs will always affect our energy and how we feel. It’s important we think about the things that are making us unhappy and deal with them. But regardless of how we feel, the buck stops with us.
We must be responsible for our own behaviour regardless of the self-limiting subconscious issues that are causing us to feel unhappy and angry.