Dealing with Expression

Being able to express ourselves is an art form. As a child expression and being able to express myself wasn’t something that came easy. Either the words came out wrong or they didn’t come out at all.

Being able to express ourselves becomes easier with practice. The more we practice, the more confidence we will have, the better at expression we will be. It’s something we learn as a child, but we can learn as adults also, but learning as an adult means it will take us longer to master the technique.

It’s not easy trying to get a message across without it being misconstrued. It’s easy for the person listening and the person speaking to have different perceptions on the meaning of the message that is being expressed. The person receiving the message may think we’re being rude, but that’s more to do with the perceptions of how that person is choosing to interpret and receive the message.

When it comes to expression, always try to express yourself in a way that doesn’t undermine what the other person has initially said. When what is being expressed begins to undermine the other person’s integrity, it’s time to back down or try a different approach. It’s easier if we understand the other person and we know how they think.

Discussions must be of mutual benefit to both people for discussions to work. When someone tries to inflict their moral standing on someone else, to prove their point, the discussion will always end on a sour note.

Their opinion might be genuine, even helpful at times, but it must be received that way and that doesn’t always happen.

17 Aug, 2011

12 thoughts on “Dealing with Expression

  1. I am lucky. I have never had a problem expressing myself. I think it is because I am an outgoing person and am not shy.

    1. It helps to have encouragement to be able to do that. You are lucky that you had that. It’s also important to be able to express ourselves well.

  2. Expressing myself wasn’t exactly encouraged in the world I grew up in. We were forced to control our expressions and feelings, which I think highly contributed to my deep depression.

    It’s kind of hard to imagine that at my age I have to learn how to express myself properly. I’m just now realizing how important it is to having a normal life.

    1. I agree with you totally. I wasn’t brought up to express myself either, but do now.

      It’s important to be able to do that so you can go on to live a normal life. We cannot live without it. Thanks for posting Randy.

  3. Expressing myself in person has never been easy for me either.

    My parents never allowed for me to relay my opinions and thoughts to them. Even today the easiest way for me to do that is through writing music.

    1. LeAnna it’s lovely to have you on site. I’m with you totally.

      I am so pleased you have something that allows you to express how you feel and think, not to mention what a wonderful talent you have.

      Expressing yourself through music is wonderful. May be one day through your music, you will find the courage to express yourself in person.

  4. I can’t seem to get the words out right or I can’t get the words out at all.

    I have the same problem when trying to write papers for school. I know what I want to say but can’t get it out right, or at all!

    I had problems growing up expressing myself. My words didn’t come out right; my parents didn’t understand me or I would just clam up and say nothing.

    1. Lisa you weren’t taught by your parents to express yourself, so it’s not surprising that you still have problems with expression now. I believe it’s something we can all work on.

      It’s not impossible to change how we express ourselves. Just try tackling little situations first and see how you go. In time you will become more confident at the whole expression thing.

  5. Oh my gosh, the lady Lisa and I have the exact problem! My words verbally can never come out right.

    In my mind I know what I want to say, but the brain won’t connect it to my mouth. It’s literally caused problems and misunderstanding in my family, children and even my marriage.

    It’s a shame really. There’s so much I want and need to say.

    1. Thanks Bonnie. Yes there’s an art to expression, which often stems from childhood, but can also be learned as an adult.

      As with all things, I believe expression needs honing. We also get better at expressing ourselves once we’ve matured a little, through self understanding, understanding how to do things better and understanding other people.

      It also depends on who we’re trying to talk to. Some people are easier to talk to than others. We’re more likely to express ourselves better in front of people we’re comfortable with. That definitely helps.

  6. Oh yes for sure, it’s easier to talk to people we are comfortable with. I hope and pray I’m doing the best with my girls.

    I let them express themselves and know what’s appropriate or not, or how to handle things according to the situation. I don’t want my kids having the same problems.

    1. Thanks Bonnie. You’re setting your girls up for the future, whilst showing and giving them guidance on how best to express themselves. I’m not sure any parent will know until their children have children, how best a job they’ve done.

      All we can do is hope for the best that the guidance we give is sound. Of course, what we do for our children now, will go on to form the foundations with their own children, so it’s even more important we get it right.

      We can’t really worry what we don’t yet know, but instinctively and intuitively as long as we believe we’re setting solid foundations, I believe things will be fine. We have to believe and keep reinforcing those beliefs.

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