Dealing with failure

Life is full of new opportunities so that when one door closes, another door opens. We have to make ourselves aware of the door that’s open and the opportunities that lie beyond it. None of us will have full control all the time, but we do have control over most things. We have control over how we perceive things that we fail at and how we come through the other end.

When we fail, for a short while we tend to lose sight of our opportunities. Failing isn’t bad, but to us it’s the end of the world. Failing means we give ourselves the opportunity to learn new things; open new doors, learn how to adapt to new circumstances and how to find a resolve on what we failed at.

Failing also gives us the opportunity to stand back, find an understanding and also find a level of acceptance on having failed. If I fail at something now that is my choice that is my responsibility. If I failed because someone else was responsible for my choice, then that someone is responsible, but it would still up to me to change this.

If we choose to wallow in self-pity, we will miss out on any new opportunities that come our way. We will continue to miss out when we choose to carry failed baggage, unless we learn to let go of those.

It’s only then we’ll be in a position to open a few more doors and learn that failure is a valuable tool.


9 Jun, 2013

8 thoughts on “Dealing with failure

  1. You are right. I think new opportunities are challenges and that’s the fun. I used to feel like a failure. I couldn’t choose a course for my life.

    I tried several things in college and finally became a nurse which I succeeded at more than I expected.

    1. From what you say Lisa it sounds as though you stuck at it. That is so important.

      I’m also pleased you found a career that suited you and that you were good at. I think sometimes we surprise ourselves.

  2. Failure is something I have a lot of experience with and have struggled most of my life dealing with the after effects! It has also been the reason I have given up on so much in my life.

    I came to the point where I figured ‘why even bother?’ since I felt like it would end in failure anyway. In other words it was easier to just accept defeat rather than even try, since it would end badly anyway!

    Now I am trying so very hard to move beyond that so I may be able to accomplish something worthwhile in the time I have left.

    1. It’s a hard one Randy. When we get to that stage where we’re trying so hard to change something in our lives and move past that point, it’s very easy to give up, but giving up doesn’t resolve anything, it just leaves us in a permanent rut.

      I hope you get beyond that point so that you start to turn things around in your life. I’m here if you need any help.

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